Is it wrong to want to go meet your favorite actor?

NoneForUs

I love Sons of Anarchy. Besides the sexy men, I love the writing and themes. It is a great show. Too bad it is ending. 

My favorite actor on the show will be coming to a town about an hour away from me. I want to go meet Theo Rossi in person and get an autographed pic. 

My husband is giving me a hard time about this. He thinks that wanting to meet a favorite celebrity is immature. My husband also told me that he doesn't want to see this Theo Rossi's face so if I get an autographed picture, I have to keep it in the spare bedroom. I should add that my husband can be slightly insecure and jealous. I believe it is our 8 year age difference as well as my husband's belief that I am far more attractive than he is. I think we are at the same level in terms of looks. 

I do not talk about Theo Rossi to my husband. I discuss the celebrity and the show on Twitter with other fans when I have some time. Female fans will often post pictures of Theo and I will ooh and ahh online, but it is all in good fun and not obsessive or frequent. My husband likes to make snide remarks about TR, especially when I watch Sons of Anarchy. There was one occasion where my husband asked "You like all these muscle bound men. I guess that's what you really want huh?" My husband is tall and strapping with a little extra weight on him. I find my hubby incredibly sexy and I told him so. 

Is it wrong or immature to want to meet a favorite actor? Why or why not? I don't see the problem but maybe other people can.

artbyallie

NoneForUs said:

I love Sons of Anarchy. Besides the sexy men, I love the writing and themes. It is a great show. Too bad it is ending. 

My favorite actor on the show will be coming to a town about an hour away from me. I want to go meet Theo Rossi in person and get an autographed pic. 

My husband is giving me a hard time about this. He thinks that wanting to meet a favorite celebrity is immature. My husband also told me that he doesn't want to see this Theo Rossi's face so if I get an autographed picture, I have to keep it in the spare bedroom. I should add that my husband can be slightly insecure and jealous. I believe it is our 8 year age difference as well as my husband's belief that I am far more attractive than he is. I think we are at the same level in terms of looks. 

I do not talk about Theo Rossi to my husband. I discuss the celebrity and the show on Twitter with other fans when I have some time. Female fans will often post pictures of Theo and I will ooh and ahh online, but it is all in good fun and not obsessive or frequent. My husband likes to make snide remarks about TR, especially when I watch Sons of Anarchy. There was one occasion where my husband asked "You like all these muscle bound men. I guess that's what you really want huh?" My husband is tall and strapping with a little extra weight on him. I find my hubby incredibly sexy and I told him so. 

Is it wrong or immature to want to meet a favorite actor? Why or why not? I don't see the problem but maybe other people can.

Wanting you to keep a celebrity's picture in another room is more than 'slightly jealous.' He's the one who sounds immature.

NoneForUs

artbyallie said:

NoneForUs said:

I love Sons of Anarchy. Besides the sexy men, I love the writing and themes. It is a great show. Too bad it is ending. 

My favorite actor on the show will be coming to a town about an hour away from me. I want to go meet Theo Rossi in person and get an autographed pic. 

My husband is giving me a hard time about this. He thinks that wanting to meet a favorite celebrity is immature. My husband also told me that he doesn't want to see this Theo Rossi's face so if I get an autographed picture, I have to keep it in the spare bedroom. I should add that my husband can be slightly insecure and jealous. I believe it is our 8 year age difference as well as my husband's belief that I am far more attractive than he is. I think we are at the same level in terms of looks. 

I do not talk about Theo Rossi to my husband. I discuss the celebrity and the show on Twitter with other fans when I have some time. Female fans will often post pictures of Theo and I will ooh and ahh online, but it is all in good fun and not obsessive or frequent. My husband likes to make snide remarks about TR, especially when I watch Sons of Anarchy. There was one occasion where my husband asked "You like all these muscle bound men. I guess that's what you really want huh?" My husband is tall and strapping with a little extra weight on him. I find my hubby incredibly sexy and I told him so. 

Is it wrong or immature to want to meet a favorite actor? Why or why not? I don't see the problem but maybe other people can.

Wanting you to keep a celebrity's picture in another room is more than 'slightly jealous.' He's the one who sounds immature.

You are completely right. I often downplay my husband's jealousy as a way to deal with it. 

I try to be understanding but I have also told my husband that I refuse to allow him to run my life with his insecurities. 

This kind of behavior is unfortunately very common in age gap marriages. I hear about it all the time.

Tofumonkey

I could see the problem if you were going to meet this actor for his autograph wearing nothing but a trench coat and nipple tassles. Otherwise it's not my style but not terribly immature either to me. 

artbyallie

Of course, you bringing up the age gap twice in one thread does make me think that maybe this is a sore spot to him and that you both perhaps spend too much time thinking about it. I mean, unless we're talking about something like 24 and 16, 8 years is not that big of a deal.

So ditch the stereotyping of your husband and your relationship and focus on the personal. Your marriage should not be being compared to anyone else, and your attraction to him does not need to be compared to your attraction to anyone else. You married him, after all. Presumably you love him, and you have said you think he's sexy.

TarponMonoxide

NoneForUs said:

I love Sons of Anarchy. Besides the sexy men, I love the writing and themes. It is a great show. Too bad it is ending. 

My favorite actor on the show will be coming to a town about an hour away from me. I want to go meet Theo Rossi in person and get an autographed pic. 

My husband is giving me a hard time about this. He thinks that wanting to meet a favorite celebrity is immature. My husband also told me that he doesn't want to see this Theo Rossi's face so if I get an autographed picture, I have to keep it in the spare bedroom. I should add that my husband can be slightly insecure and jealous. I believe it is our 8 year age difference as well as my husband's belief that I am far more attractive than he is. I think we are at the same level in terms of looks. 

I do not talk about Theo Rossi to my husband. I discuss the celebrity and the show on Twitter with other fans when I have some time. Female fans will often post pictures of Theo and I will ooh and ahh online, but it is all in good fun and not obsessive or frequent. My husband likes to make snide remarks about TR, especially when I watch Sons of Anarchy. There was one occasion where my husband asked "You like all these muscle bound men. I guess that's what you really want huh?" My husband is tall and strapping with a little extra weight on him. I find my hubby incredibly sexy and I told him so. 

Is it wrong or immature to want to meet a favorite actor? Why or why not? I don't see the problem but maybe other people can.

He's never had the thrill or pleasure of meeting a celeb, I will bet.

THere are a few I have seen :in person" and they were nice enough to take photos with us.

Not immature at all.

I can't figure out why he has such a negative view of celebs and why people want to meet them.  Sorry for your troubles.

NoneForUs

artbyallie said:

Of course, you bringing up the age gap twice in one thread does make me think that maybe this is a sore spot to him and that you both perhaps spend too much time thinking about it. I mean, unless we're talking about something like 24 and 16, 8 years is not that big of a deal.

So ditch the stereotyping of your husband and your relationship and focus on the personal. Your marriage should not be being compared to anyone else, and your attraction to him does not need to be compared to your attraction to anyone else. You married him, after all. Presumably you love him, and you have said you think he's sexy.

From what I have read as well as experienced with other older men, insecurity tends to be a big issue. This manifests itself in controlling and clingy behavior. This is true with any kind of insecurity in a relationship and not just age related. 

All of my friends who are also married to older men complain of the same thing. Speaking from experience and research is not stereotyping. 

I agree that 8 years is not a huge difference, but my husband doesn't see it that way. I also receive a lot of negative comments from others who say that my husband is too old for me. I try to tell my husband that if the age difference was a problem for me, I would not have dated him or became his wife. At the same time, I am not going to let his insecurity hold me hostage.  

Interestingly, Theo Rossi is one year younger than my husband. )

NoneForUs

TarponMonoxide said:

NoneForUs said:

I love Sons of Anarchy. Besides the sexy men, I love the writing and themes. It is a great show. Too bad it is ending. 

My favorite actor on the show will be coming to a town about an hour away from me. I want to go meet Theo Rossi in person and get an autographed pic. 

My husband is giving me a hard time about this. He thinks that wanting to meet a favorite celebrity is immature. My husband also told me that he doesn't want to see this Theo Rossi's face so if I get an autographed picture, I have to keep it in the spare bedroom. I should add that my husband can be slightly insecure and jealous. I believe it is our 8 year age difference as well as my husband's belief that I am far more attractive than he is. I think we are at the same level in terms of looks. 

I do not talk about Theo Rossi to my husband. I discuss the celebrity and the show on Twitter with other fans when I have some time. Female fans will often post pictures of Theo and I will ooh and ahh online, but it is all in good fun and not obsessive or frequent. My husband likes to make snide remarks about TR, especially when I watch Sons of Anarchy. There was one occasion where my husband asked "You like all these muscle bound men. I guess that's what you really want huh?" My husband is tall and strapping with a little extra weight on him. I find my hubby incredibly sexy and I told him so. 

Is it wrong or immature to want to meet a favorite actor? Why or why not? I don't see the problem but maybe other people can.

He's never had the thrill or pleasure of meeting a celeb, I will bet.

THere are a few I have seen :in person" and they were nice enough to take photos with us.

Not immature at all.

I can't figure out why he has such a negative view of celebs and why people want to meet them.  Sorry for your troubles.

I could understand my husband's concerns if I was constantly talking about TR or putting up posters. However, that is not the case. 

NoneForUs

Tofumonkey said:

I could see the problem if you were going to meet this actor for his autograph wearing nothing but a trench coat and nipple tassles. Otherwise it's not my style but not terribly immature either to me. 

)  ) Trenchcoat and nipple pasties! I love it! 

I've never gone out of my way to meet a celebrity before. I just think this is an unusual opportunity and I would like to grab it. 

NoneForUs

artbyallie said:

Of course, you bringing up the age gap twice in one thread does make me think that maybe this is a sore spot to him and that you both perhaps spend too much time thinking about it. I mean, unless we're talking about something like 24 and 16, 8 years is not that big of a deal.

So ditch the stereotyping of your husband and your relationship and focus on the personal. Your marriage should not be being compared to anyone else, and your attraction to him does not need to be compared to your attraction to anyone else. You married him, after all. Presumably you love him, and you have said you think he's sexy.

I forgot to add this question in my last post. My apologies.

Where did I compare my marriage to the marriages of others? I never said anything like that. I also never compared my attraction to my husband to my attraction to anyone else. 

lpstl

This is some of the most ridiculous sh*t I've heard of in a good long while.

No, there's nothing wrong with wanting to meet a favorite celebrity. 

ChibiShi

Your husband's being ridiculous. Go, get your autograph, put it wherever you want to put it. Don't rub it in hubby's face, of course, but he really needs to tone down on his jealousy. Your husband may not be unattractive, but his attitude about this sure is, and maybe you should let him know that.

NoneForUs

ChibiShi said:

Your husband's being ridiculous. Go, get your autograph, put it wherever you want to put it. Don't rub it in hubby's face, of course, but he really needs to tone down on his jealousy. Your husband may not be unattractive, but his attitude about this sure is, and maybe you should let him know that.

You are so right. I think he is being ridiculous as well. I tell my husband that his irrational jealousy makes him look petty. 

NoneForUs

lpstl said:

This is some of the most ridiculous sh*t I've heard of in a good long while.

No, there's nothing wrong with wanting to meet a favorite celebrity. 

) Thank you.

artbyallie

NoneForUs said:

artbyallie said:

Of course, you bringing up the age gap twice in one thread does make me think that maybe this is a sore spot to him and that you both perhaps spend too much time thinking about it. I mean, unless we're talking about something like 24 and 16, 8 years is not that big of a deal.

So ditch the stereotyping of your husband and your relationship and focus on the personal. Your marriage should not be being compared to anyone else, and your attraction to him does not need to be compared to your attraction to anyone else. You married him, after all. Presumably you love him, and you have said you think he's sexy.

I forgot to add this question in my last post. My apologies.

Where did I compare my marriage to the marriages of others? I never said anything like that. I also never compared my attraction to my husband to my attraction to anyone else. 

Fine. Don't take my damn advice then. Don't know why you came here if you're going to argue with people's perspectives and suggestions. And you are comparing your marriage to others when you keep bringing up that this is supposedly 'very common' in marriages with an age gap. And even if you're not comparing the attraction, he obviously is. I think you could both do with a bit of counseling, since you're having issues communicating with each other effectively.

NoneForUs

artbyallie said:

NoneForUs said:

artbyallie said:

Of course, you bringing up the age gap twice in one thread does make me think that maybe this is a sore spot to him and that you both perhaps spend too much time thinking about it. I mean, unless we're talking about something like 24 and 16, 8 years is not that big of a deal.

So ditch the stereotyping of your husband and your relationship and focus on the personal. Your marriage should not be being compared to anyone else, and your attraction to him does not need to be compared to your attraction to anyone else. You married him, after all. Presumably you love him, and you have said you think he's sexy.

I forgot to add this question in my last post. My apologies.

Where did I compare my marriage to the marriages of others? I never said anything like that. I also never compared my attraction to my husband to my attraction to anyone else. 

Fine. Don't take my damn advice then. Don't know why you came here if you're going to argue with people's perspectives and suggestions. And you are comparing your marriage to others when you keep bringing up that this is supposedly 'very common' in marriages with an age gap. And even if you're not comparing the attraction, he obviously is. I think you could both do with a bit of counseling, since you're having issues communicating with each other effectively.

:-O What on earth are you ranting about? 

I simply clarified my position, shared information and asked questions. I also did not say that I wouldn't take your advice. I don't understand why you are putting words in my mouth and accusing me of posting words which are clearly absent. That kind of behavior makes you look rather delusional and sick. 

You seem very irrational and angry. Perhaps you need some counseling for your obvious anger management difficulties. I wish you healing and clarity. 

TarponMonoxide

Invite him to come along!

Maybe he can meet Katey Segal or Maggie Siff.:)

NoneForUs

TarponMonoxide said:

Invite him to come along!

Maybe he can meet Katey Segal or Maggie Siff.:)

Great suggestion! Unfortunately, only Kim Coates and Theo Rossi will be attending this event.

Does Maggie Siff still do appearances? 

TarponMonoxide

NoneForUs said:

TarponMonoxide said:

Invite him to come along!

Maybe he can meet Katey Segal or Maggie Siff.:)

Great suggestion! Unfortunately, only Kim Coates and Theo Rossi will be attending this event.

Does Maggie Siff still do appearances? 

I don't know --- I have loved Maggie, though, since her appearances as the ultra-cool Midge from Mad Men.

GilliC

NoneForUs said:

I forgot to add this question in my last post. My apologies.

Where did I compare my marriage to the marriages of others? I never said anything like that. I also never compared my attraction to my husband to my attraction to anyone else. 

Here:

NoneForUs said:

From what I have read as well as experienced with other older men, insecurity tends to be a big issue. This manifests itself in controlling and clingy behavior. This is true with any kind of insecurity in a relationship and not just age related. 

All of my friends who are also married to older men complain of the same thing. Speaking from experience and research is not stereotyping. 

I agree that 8 years is not a huge difference, but my husband doesn't see it that way. I also receive a lot of negative comments from others who say that my husband is too old for me. I try to tell my husband that if the age difference was a problem for me, I would not have dated him or became his wife. At the same time, I am not going to let his insecurity hold me hostage.  

Interestingly, Theo Rossi is one year younger than my husband. )

(Apologies if you meant that to be a rhetorical question.)

NoneForUs

GilliC said:

NoneForUs said:

I forgot to add this question in my last post. My apologies.

Where did I compare my marriage to the marriages of others? I never said anything like that. I also never compared my attraction to my husband to my attraction to anyone else. 

Here:

NoneForUs said:

From what I have read as well as experienced with other older men, insecurity tends to be a big issue. This manifests itself in controlling and clingy behavior. This is true with any kind of insecurity in a relationship and not just age related. 

All of my friends who are also married to older men complain of the same thing. Speaking from experience and research is not stereotyping. 

I agree that 8 years is not a huge difference, but my husband doesn't see it that way. I also receive a lot of negative comments from others who say that my husband is too old for me. I try to tell my husband that if the age difference was a problem for me, I would not have dated him or became his wife. At the same time, I am not going to let his insecurity hold me hostage.  

Interestingly, Theo Rossi is one year younger than my husband. )

(Apologies if you meant that to be a rhetorical question.)

Thank you for pointing that out. 

All I'm going to say is that if I notice that others in my life are complaining about an issue that I also face, I am going to take that as confirmation that my husband's behavior is at least somewhat common. I don't see what is so terrible about that. 

NoneForUs

TarponMonoxide said:

NoneForUs said:

TarponMonoxide said:

Invite him to come along!

Maybe he can meet Katey Segal or Maggie Siff.:)

Great suggestion! Unfortunately, only Kim Coates and Theo Rossi will be attending this event.

Does Maggie Siff still do appearances? 

I don't know --- I have loved Maggie, though, since her appearances as the ultra-cool Midge from Mad Men.

I've been meaning to watch Mad Men. 

I loved Maggie in SOA even though I hated her character. She is a superb actress. 

NoneForUs

So I paid for my registration for the fundraiser where I will meet Theo Rossi.

My husband has stopped making snide remarks. I told him that he sounds ridiculous and jealous for no reason. I also softened my words with reminding my husband how much I love him and find him sexy. We made up as usual.

Thanks for all your responses! I appreciate it. 

jessica490

I would go for it! If Vin Diesel were in town, I'd run over and grab onto those big muscles and never let go LOL!!

NoneForUs

jessica490 said:

I would go for it! If Vin Diesel were in town, I'd run over and grab onto those big muscles and never let go LOL!!

) You're hilarious! I am so going for it! 

TarponMonoxide

Often as not these famous people aren't what they appear to be on the screen.:)

I have seen actors and actresses that were not nearly as "imposing" in person.  From a distance, at an event, I saw January Jones and  Elisabeth Moss and they were on the petite and "smallish" size.:)

They were minus the costumes and makeup and hairstyles that they would wear on the set during a taping -- maybe that was it. They looked to be like "one of us" only a bit more attractive.:)

I don't think it is the age difference.  I don't know what it could be. Maybe it's all because he isn't a fan oif anybody famous or if he is, he "sees" it a different way.

Ive seen athletes at one of those fund raisers that a local high school had --- it was the NY Giants versus the high school faculty --- some of the players were "big" and some of them didn't look that way at all. (They hung arund afterwards to sign autographs and chat with whoever wanted to talk.

The Superbowl rings were big.:)

NoneForUs

TarponMonoxide said:

Often as not these famous people aren't what they appear to be on the screen.:)

I have seen actors and actresses that were not nearly as "imposing" in person.  From a distance, at an event, I saw January Jones and  Elisabeth Moss and they were on the petite and "smallish" size.:)

They were minus the costumes and makeup and hairstyles that they would wear on the set during a taping -- maybe that was it. They looked to be like "one of us" only a bit more attractive.:)

I don't think it is the age difference.  I don't know what it could be. Maybe it's all because he isn't a fan oif anybody famous or if he is, he "sees" it a different way.

Ive seen athletes at one of those fund raisers that a local high school had --- it was the NY Giants versus the high school faculty --- some of the players were "big" and some of them didn't look that way at all. (They hung arund afterwards to sign autographs and chat with whoever wanted to talk.

The Superbowl rings were big.:)

This is true. My favorite actor from Sons of Anarchy isn't even a well known celebrity; he is B list at best. Many people still have no clue who he is. 

I'm told that Theo Rossi is very down to earth, friendly and flirty. I feel sorry for the fangirls I see on Twitter who take his flirting seriously. They meet him, he gives them hugs and calls them "babygirl" or "gorgeous" and they actually believe he is in love with them. He's just playing the role of Genial Actor. 

NoneForUs

Met Theo and Kim today. It was lovely. There were only three blacks in a crowd of over 200 and we were all women. 

I was so shy and nervous but Theo and Kim made me feel better. I got hugs from both of them. 

Theo held me and looked into my eyes as he asked for my name. For some reason, my voice was very small. I think that meeting someone that I fantasize about was a bit intimidating.

I got a pic with both of them and an autographed T shirt. 

My husband was quite calm and jokey with people we met in line. While we were in the car, my hubby was touching me in sexual ways. I think he was trying to "claim" me in a way. 

short+sassy

So glad you had a great time and your husband came to his senses and stopped being such a tool.  Sounds like he decided to turn this outing into an "opportunity".  Good move on his part . 

NoneForUs

My husband's comments made me laugh. "I was going to bum rush that stage and say DON'T TOUCH MY WIFE!"  )