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Situation not good. Update from me
What I've got on my hands is a real mess.
I am still waiting for the case to be resolved. And I am having a ton of problems with Bro and the GF.
To anybody tuning in just now, I have a legal issue against Bro and he's not happy about it. The GF that lives with him isn't either and I have them both chiming in like a couple of middle schoolers.
You can see and feel the tension when they are together --- they know the end is coming and they are nothing but divisive toward me. Gee, wonder why?
There was a huge blow up here on Sunday; it won't be until end of August sometime until the case is settled and done. Don't ask what the scene between them and me was like.
We were supposed to have a hearing start of July; Bro called in sick to that meeting.
He was not ill. I know that for a fact. I saw him leaving about 2 hours before the meeting time and he was loading his car with tennis eqiipment. So "quite ill" means you are getting ready for a tennis date? Dagnabit and $U&%#!!
That meeting was rescheduled for this past Tuesday but it didn't go down...somehow Bro's atty didn't give Bro the date. So now it's another 3 week wait for the next date.
I have been pushing to get an earlier date for the meeting. I have not yet heard back anything.
Personally, I say Bro is stalling and the atty he has purposely fudged up giving Bro the date to be there. Just my opinion.
My only recourse in the interim until the case is over is to avoid them both --- duck out of the way when I see them coming and when they are gone, it's all clear, I guess. I have Bro threatening to call the cops --- what am I supposed to do? Say something else -- and he calls? it's like they are trying to manipulate me or use scare tactics.
What a mess. It's a lot of pressure plus there are also things happening in my own life that I am trying to resolve -- and I had GF tell me "you do nothing all day." Really? I am trying to run a self run business: that is one of the problems of my own I am having. Anybody knows the economy sucks and it's even rougher for us self employed people.
MYOMFB and shut UP. That is what I felt like saying to her in reply to that comment but I did not. I blew sky high; as it is, I have been holding my tongue and wow, how much of that am I supposed to do?
The pressure is just awful. I do not have very many people to talk to about this; a couple of friends know what's going on but that's about it.
I do not want to sleep with one eye open but I am going to stay diligent; you never know with some people. The 2 of them are madder than unholy hell and I do not trust either one of them.
The situation is bad and it's deteriorating. Thanks for listening.
I am still waiting for the case to be resolved. And I am having a ton of problems with Bro and the GF.
To anybody tuning in just now, I have a legal issue against Bro and he's not happy about it. The GF that lives with him isn't either and I have them both chiming in like a couple of middle schoolers.
You can see and feel the tension when they are together --- they know the end is coming and they are nothing but divisive toward me. Gee, wonder why?
There was a huge blow up here on Sunday; it won't be until end of August sometime until the case is settled and done. Don't ask what the scene between them and me was like.
We were supposed to have a hearing start of July; Bro called in sick to that meeting.
He was not ill. I know that for a fact. I saw him leaving about 2 hours before the meeting time and he was loading his car with tennis eqiipment. So "quite ill" means you are getting ready for a tennis date? Dagnabit and $U&%#!!
That meeting was rescheduled for this past Tuesday but it didn't go down...somehow Bro's atty didn't give Bro the date. So now it's another 3 week wait for the next date.
I have been pushing to get an earlier date for the meeting. I have not yet heard back anything.
Personally, I say Bro is stalling and the atty he has purposely fudged up giving Bro the date to be there. Just my opinion.
My only recourse in the interim until the case is over is to avoid them both --- duck out of the way when I see them coming and when they are gone, it's all clear, I guess. I have Bro threatening to call the cops --- what am I supposed to do? Say something else -- and he calls? it's like they are trying to manipulate me or use scare tactics.
What a mess. It's a lot of pressure plus there are also things happening in my own life that I am trying to resolve -- and I had GF tell me "you do nothing all day." Really? I am trying to run a self run business: that is one of the problems of my own I am having. Anybody knows the economy sucks and it's even rougher for us self employed people.
MYOMFB and shut UP. That is what I felt like saying to her in reply to that comment but I did not. I blew sky high; as it is, I have been holding my tongue and wow, how much of that am I supposed to do?
The pressure is just awful. I do not have very many people to talk to about this; a couple of friends know what's going on but that's about it.
I do not want to sleep with one eye open but I am going to stay diligent; you never know with some people. The 2 of them are madder than unholy hell and I do not trust either one of them.
The situation is bad and it's deteriorating. Thanks for listening.
Re: Situation not good. Update from me
I also want him gone because I am trying to end the codependency. I cannot have him here for good.
He has been a problem for years and years. My mother needed to nip this in the bud when it began but she didn't do it.
He has forfeitted the meeting once; illness was the first time ad as I said, the date got lost in translation by his team for the second.
This is a mess.
And it just would not be "sell the house" -- the money would go into escrow and we would have to duke it out uurselves what damages are owed.
The housing market here stinks. There are houses in prime areas that are sitting on the market with no sale.
What a mess all of this is.
Plus it's the strain of what is happening with those 2 --- I can't seem to catch a break. He threatens to call the cops if I even ask a question. He screams at me that I am harassing him. "Don't open your mouth or I'll call the cops on you...."
What sense does this make? What sense does any of this make? I have her jumping onto the band wagon and chiming in with the threats to call the police, have her chiming in with nasty remarks he is making ---- is this a good way to be?
(On Sunday after that scene took place, I decided to just lie low when I see them coming and let them come and go. I think staying low is really my only alternative because you know what you say or what you ask is going to be worth shit)
Meanwhile, she's got a tween living with them and that kid can hear and see the whole mess that her mother and her mother's boyfriend are saying and doing. This really is pretty sad.
Duck out of the way and avoid them both? Great, but I have to force myself to live like this in what is my own home. It's like I can't go and come as I please, you know?
He has continually been a problem. Several years ago he tried to take a second mortgage out on this house, without me knowing about it. Claimed he needed the money for paying off debts; he wanted a very large sum of money --- naturally, he was not going to be able to do that, since there are 2 people in ownership. They ran a title search, found out there were 2 owners and that was the end of his plans.
In the meanwhile, his behavior was horrible. He tried to threaten me and coerce me and he tried to scare me with "oh, I'm getting a loan and nothing you can do about it. I went to a lending tree dot com" and he stood there and laughed. If he wasn't laughing, he was making a scene by arguing.
When he was trying to do this, I called a college friend of mine who is an attorney. She told me not to worry since there would be a title search and the whole thing would be for naught. But wow --- this is the behavior I am getting from a grown person, not a kid.
This is a gigantic mess and I should have done something about him years ago, after my mother was gone.