Not ready for Kids, BC Options?

mklam

Hi everyone,

I'm new to the Nest here. I have a question that I kinda already have an answer too but I need more advice on.

I'm not ready for kids. In many ways. My man isn't either. But he'll be ready sooner than me. He doesn't have the same hesitations as I do mainly because of my health issues.

So to start my story, I have major scarring and tearing inside my uterus, and that is from something I don't really want to get into. But it hasn't healed for the 5 years I've had it. Anyways, condoms irritate and pull on it, causing me to bleed a lot. It also, obviously, is very painful. After we stopped using them, I haven't been in nearly as much pain. But I always worry about getting pregnant. I'm on the pill, but I feel as if it is not as strong as it should be (they put me on a weaker medication since my migraines were being triggered by the estrogen). 

I'm considering an IUD, but I'm worried that down the line, if I do want kids, I'll have trouble (more than I already will with the whole damaged uterus thing). My Dr. said it will be hard to carry a baby with the scarring and I know several people who have had IUDs and can't have kids at all.....

So I'm just looking for help on what to do. I feel as if my Dr. doesn't really care (but I can't really switch since he has been awesome with my migraines) and I can't find a gynecologist I feel comfortable around (most treat me funky since I have a strange situation).  

I feel like I should just get a stronger pill and deal with the daily migraines. But I really loathe that idea

formerlyGDaisy09

did they put you on progesterone only? that's what they did for my migranes.  H and I have TTC out on our in 6months to a year timeline, so IUD is not a real option for me. 

IUD has come a long way in the last few years, the copper IUDs are the ones I've heard can cause damage.  have you spoken to an OB/GYN about options or just your GP? the shots and inplants are probably not an option for you if estrogen has been a problem. I'd keep shopping around for an OB/GYN that you connect with, ask some friend for recommendations.

side-note I've not had my period since switching from the regular pill to the mini-pill 6 months ago, my PCP thinks the two are linked and wants me to do a trial off BC...H and I are now going to use condoms, charting (TTA around my firtle window, if I can figure out my cycle), and Plan B in the event that condoms fail. 

You really should not be on an estrogen containing pill if you're getting daily migranes, both increase your risk of stroke.

chrisnjay05212010

I have the Mirena IUD, ive had it for 5 months and im loving it. The hormones in it are very little.  I would only consider an IUD if you dont plan on having kids for a few years.  We aren't planning on any at all.

I don't know too much about it, but what about looking into the Nuvaring? Or do they still use diaphrams? Maybe thats a better option with your other health issues?

Have you asked the doctor if there is something you could use in conjunction with the pill if you dont feel its enough protection? Besides condoms?

I would look around for a OB/Gyn that you feel comfortable with, if you do want kids eventually you are def going to want a doctor you like. Its a pain but worth it.

ELC098

i work in the reproductive health care field, so i know a lot about BC. it sounds like the best options for you is the Nexplanon (the implant in your arm). It is progesterone only method, so it will not cause migraines. it is also in your arm (i'm not sure what is going on with your perforated uterus, but it may not be a good idea to stick an IUD in there), and it lasts for 3 years. many women report that it causes spotting for the first 6/mo, and then their period stops completely. so give it 6mo to settle. just to correct misinformation about IUDs: they do NOT cause infertility, if your friends could not get pregnant there was an underlying issue of infertility and they just happened to have had the IUD (probably not related).  

BlueBirdMB

I have a bunch of health issues and I use a diaphragm!  It works!  Not the most popular option, but it's a viable option.  Not sure if it would cause any issues as far as irritation for you...

ELC098

diaphragms are only about 80% effective, condoms are actually a better options, so be careful with diaphrams 

zachandkiley

I've had my IUD (Mirena) for 4 and a half years at this point and loved it up until a few months ago. My hormones have been going insane. My face has been breaking out, I've gained weight and can't seem to lose it, I feel bloated all the time, I have cramps often, I'm incredibly moody and emotional. It's miserable. 

I've also been reading that people experience the "Mirena Crash" after they have it removed. I'm terrified, but I'm getting it taken out next month. 

We're switching to the Fertility Awareness Method with the Kindara app and system! I would encourage you to check it out!! It's all natural and all about you knowing your body. No artificial hormones!!

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But whatever you decide I hope you feel better!