sex is great but need help?

stacidake

I have always been a very sexuArticle III the gangble to climax they way a women should. I battled with maltiple health problums like....
15-22 endometriosis, pre cancer, multiple surgrys and for one year a drug induced menopause
18-19 diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, optic neuritis and went blind in both eyes and right side of my body. I can see and walk it was a 6-12 month recovery time fram.
At 22 almost all my major medical problems went away.
I am 34 female and I am a monogamous sex addict that can't get enough sex. Me and my wife enjoy our sex life more than most people do because we are always spicing up our sex life. I am by fare the more color full of the two of us. I watch porn on a regular basis and have many time a day I have to get off.
Now here are the problems I am having, next to me my wife feels very inadequate in our sex life. So I have tried many different ways to make it easyer for her to get me off. Like I stop masterbating, then I masterbated and wouldn't let myself get off, didn't have sex for days and so on, still the same end resaults were that I just can't have the big orgasm by her.( I in no way shape or form want to be a man) but the way I have mine are no different than a man would. Lol let me explain. When we are in the missionary position I always get off. Yes there are toys Involved but most the time they are not contacting my skin only hers.
I am the stay at home mom and periodically throgh out the day I feel like I have a penis instead of a clit because it vibrates and it feels like I have an electric current flowing through it. It gets swollen and engorged to the point were i feel like I am going to explode. Over the years it is becoming more annoying. It never hurts and dosent have a pattern. Is there anyone else that deals with this or have any helpful advise. Yes I know it is a blessing but it is also a curse. I have recived my routine checks and I am medically fine now. But I feel really bad that my wife feels so insecure with our sex life. That is not the way I want her to feel.

TarponMonoxide

stacidake said:

I have always been a very sexuArticle III the gangble to climax they way a women should. I battled with maltiple health problums like.... 15-22 endometriosis, pre cancer, multiple surgrys and for one year a drug induced menopause 18-19 diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, optic neuritis and went blind in both eyes and right side of my body. I can see and walk it was a 6-12 month recovery time fram. At 22 almost all my major medical problems went away.

Wow --- my friend, you certainly have been down a terrible and rocky road with your health. So sorry to hear... and that spontaneous remission you underwent is nothing short of miraculous and a miracle.

I am 34 female and I am a monogamous sex addict that can't get enough sex. Me and my wife enjoy our sex life more than most people do because we are always spicing up our sex life.

I do not think you are a sex addict per se --- you are probably somebody wiht a very high sex drive.:)


 I am by fare the more color full of the two of us. I watch porn on a regular basis and have many time a day I have to get off. Now here are the problems I am having, next to me my wife feels very inadequate in our sex life.

It is good that you 2 talked about it --- keep up the communication; communcation is key.


So I have tried many different ways to make it easyer for her to get me off. Like I stop masterbating, then I masterbated and wouldn't let myself get off, didn't have sex for days and so on, still the same end resaults were that I just can't have the big orgasm by her.( I in no way shape or form want to be a man) but the way I have mine are no different than a man would.

Has she masturbated?  If not, she needs to start. She likely hasn't got any idea what an orgasm is supposed to feel like nor does she know what touches turn her on.

I am a strong advocate of knowing your body and knowing what turns you on. Sex For One is a good book to check  out -- get a copy for you and for her and go over it together.:)

Lots of oral sex helps, too.:)


Lol let me explain. When we are in the missionary position I always get off.

This is VERY unusual for a woman -- no namual stimulation and you still orgams with another woman via missionarly?

Very unusual...

Regarding the rest (I can't get out of "your post") See a gyn and report what's happening. There is a rare medical condition --- there are women who cannot stop orgasming and it's hooked to some type of nerve disorder; I heard about it on some TV show somewhere a while back.

Maybe your wife is trying to compare you to her and that's an unfair comparison right there: everybody is different.


Yes there are toys Involved but most the time they are not contacting my skin only hers. I am the stay at home mom and periodically throgh out the day I feel like I have a penis instead of a clit because it vibrates and it feels like I have an electric current flowing through it. It gets swollen and engorged to the point were i feel like I am going to explode. Over the years it is becoming more annoying. It never hurts and dosent have a pattern. Is there anyone else that deals with this or have any helpful advise. Yes I know it is a blessing but it is also a curse. I have recived my routine checks and I am medically fine now. But I feel really bad that my wife feels so insecure with our sex life. That is not the way I want her to feel.