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I need advice....
I'm not going to leave him, I just need to figure out how to even talk to him and how to start trusting him again. We're talking tonight....
I need advice...sorry this may be long:(
My husband and I have been married a little over 5 months now. When we were together he had a house in a different school disctrict and we had made the decision before getting married to rent out his house and move into my apartment so my then 5 year old could stay at her school. Since then, we moved to a diffferent apartment, (still in the school system), and I thought all was fine. This morning I was looking for our payment booklet for our car, and found court papers and letters from the bank and such. His house had been foreclosed on and has already been sold in a sheriffs auction. He has not said one word to me. He told me he had been collecting the rent each month and paying on the mortage. I texted him and said I just wanted to touch base about the house while i was going through bills and redoing our budget. He said everything was fine, he was getting rent and paying the mortage. I told him I knew he had been moving things out of there that he had in storage, and wanted to know why. I specifically asked
Re: I need advice....
Im assuming you have separate bank accounts and therefore never saw the lack of rent and/or mortgage payments.
This would be a deal breaker for me, he has lied, consistently on a daily basis, even if his lies are not verbal, he has allowed you to believe that rent was coming in and mortgage was going out. He did not tell you about the foreclosure, something which is going to effect your credit, he did not tell you about the auction and when given the chance to come clean, he lied again.
If its not a deal breaker for you, thats your business but at the very least I would get individual therapy to see why you believe you deserve so little in a marriage.
Good luck
Run like hell.
Trust?
There is none..
You need to leave him because he lied, he is not dependable, his character is zero and you entered into a fraudulent marriage
He can show you solid proof what happened to that house and do it in 2 minutes from now but the fact is he's a pig who didn't come clean about the house.
Separate your assets, take the money that is yours and leave this pig, posthaste -- do so tomorrow and file for an annullment.
Do not look back.
Therapy would be a great idea for you --- as somebody said, you need to find out why you are accepting such a piece of shit for a husband. You deserve a lot more than him.
Protect your assets and make sure he cannot get his hands on any money or assets that is yours. Pack up your daughter and get out of there tomorrow.
Why isn't his banking information coming to your home?
Do you trust this guy to be a father figure and to show your daughter how dependable people can be?
So sorry for your troubles. This is too bad and horrible.