Why did this bother me

runner76

So the other day my husband is talking to me. We were all cuddling and what not. He says to me how did you fall in love with me. Do you remember the moment when ? I said no IDr. He said isn't it funny how that always happens Just happens so fast all at once. I was like what always happens. He says with a person. Fall in love. Idk why it bothers me and I'm trying to figure it out. ? Any idea

Sugarplum97

I am having a hard time understanding what you are saying. What part of it is bothering you?

TarponMonoxide

runner76 said:

So the other day my husband is talking to me. We were all cuddling and what not. He says to me how did you fall in love with me. Do you remember the moment when ? I said no IDr. He said isn't it funny how that always happens Just happens so fast all at once. I was like what always happens. He says with a person. Fall in love. Idk why it bothers me and I'm trying to figure it out. ? Any idea

Love to me is subjective.:)

Sometimes you can pinpoint *when* you knew you loved this person, other times you cannot.

runner76

IDk the way he said it always happens like that.. I guess I feel like we should be different than the rest of people he fell in love with . he always says he never was in love with anyone like me

TarponMonoxide

runner76 said:

IDk the way he said it always happens like that.. I guess I feel like we should be different than the rest of people he fell in love with . he always says he never was in love with anyone like me

But what are you asking us? Can you clarify it?

GilliC

It bothered you because the frozen container sneaks beneath the phrase.

That's the best answer I could come up with given the current information. (Source)

GilliC

If you want a bunch of internet strangers to psychoanalyze your behavior, you're going to need to give us a lot more background. Or we could just jump to "insecurity."

If you want to fast-forward to the advice phase, I'm going to tell you to talk to a professional to figure out the root cause and how to address it. Tarpon will probably tell you to get divorced. And someone will probably chime in with something about working harder at your marriage.

If you're lucky there might be a gif.

And in three years, some advertiser will dredge up this post to add a reply with a link to their marital services website.

Hey! Maybe we can do this without any info! Cool!

DrWifePhD

I think you nailed it with the "jump to 'insecurity'", GilliC.  If I interpreted that correctly (I work with college students all day, I've learned to read incoherent statements), I believe she is saying, roughly translated:

"He said 'it always happens that way when you fall in love.' And I believe that since I am his wife, and therefore a special snowflake, our love should be different and better than all of the other loves he has had before and therefore he should not have ever felt the way he feels about me about any other woman in his entire life."

So, probably insecurity.  

OP I think you should probably just realize that you are fixating on something silly, and that in the end whoever else he felt lovey dovey towards, he married you.  

OtterJ

Ah, now that it's been translated, I understand what's being asked. 

The fact that falling in love with you felt like it did when he also fell in love with other people before you is immaterial.  Falling in love is the easy part.  You can fall in love with pretty much anybody, regardless of how terrible you are together, in the long run. 

Staying in love, and choosing to build a life together is the one that takes a commitment - which he made to you, and no one else.  This is how your love is now different than any other love that you, or he felt previously. 

Falling in love is no big deal.  It's staying in love that's important. 

RamaLamaDD

OtterJ said:

Ah, now that it's been translated, I understand what's being asked. 

The fact that falling in love with you felt like it did when he also fell in love with other people before you is immaterial.  Falling in love is the easy part.  You can fall in love with pretty much anybody, regardless of how terrible you are together, in the long run. 

Staying in love, and choosing to build a life together is the one that takes a commitment - which he made to you, and no one else.  This is how your love is now different than any other love that you, or he felt previously. 

Falling in love is no big deal.  It's staying in love that's important. 

*sniffle* this is the nicest dang thing I've read all day