Now what?

SheMarie82

I have to be honest, now that my wedding is over, I feel completely LOST!  I love being married, but I have been dedicating so much time to the planning over the last year, I now don't know what to do with my time.  I have read 3 books in as many weeks!  I have gotten back on track with my walking routine.  But I feel like there should be something else that I am doing...

Anyone else feel a little off once the planning was over?

BlueBirdMB

Go back to your normal life?  Didn't you have a fulfilling life before your engagement?  Do that stuff

GilliC

Have you checked out the Nest Book Club board? If you're missing the planning and organizing from the wedding, the fall book challenge just started. You can spend a decent bit of time researching books for the different categories and tracking them down. Comes complete with a planning spreadsheet!

http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12020285/fbc-spreadsheet

SheMarie82

I am not saying that I am unfulfilled in my life.  When planning the wedding, I didn't stop doing the things that I was, I just had to become more efficient.  Now that I am not working on the wedding stuff, I just have more time.  I may have not been clear.  The same thing happened when I was done with college, I had extra time that was no longer dedicated to one specific task.

BlueBirdMB

SheMarie82 said:

I am not saying that I am unfulfilled in my life.  When planning the wedding, I didn't stop doing the things that I was, I just had to become more efficient.  Now that I am not working on the wedding stuff, I just have more time.  I may have not been clear.  The same thing happened when I was done with college, I had extra time that was no longer dedicated to one specific task.

I wish I had extra time.  Maybe you should do some volunteer work?  Or just spend more quality time with your husband.  

bekt14

I've only been married 5 days, but I feel just as busy as I did while planning. I have so many thank you notes to write, name change,  merge our finances/insurance/utilities, organizing our new home together, un-pack all our wedding stuff, clean wedding dress, have lots of sex , get back to my old hobbies, go through all the wedding pictures and start a scrap book, catch-up on work that I missed during the honeymoon, figure out our holiday schedule between our families, plan our vacation for our anniversary next year, look for a house to buy next year, start saving for said house.... the list goes on. I feel like married life is as hectic as engaged life so far... but I just started. 

catsareniice1

How about volunteer your time or foster a pet(s)?

SheMarie82

I am the chair for my county's relay for life, sit on 3 boards, and am president of another. I don't think that my wife will let me volunteer anymore than that!

theholmanherd

I get what you're saying. I eloped, so I didn't plan a wedding, but I understood your post-college reference. I just took on a new hobby. I write novels and read a lot in my free time. Find a new hobby. Or just give yourself a little while to readjust to the new schedule. You'll calm down again and things will get back to normal. It's okay to not have every minute scheduled

chrisnjay05212010

i wasn't like this after my wedding, i was THRILLED to be done planning a wedding.  But after grad school i felt that way.  I was going to grad school, planning a wedding and buying a house all at the same time.  I wrapped up grad school about 6 months before the wedding.  At first i felt alittle lost or like i was forgetting to do something.  But i quickly adjusted and filled in the space with more things for me.

Now i fill me time with zumba, yoga, taking my dog on walks, enjoying my own tv shows or just relaxing with hubby on the couch doing nothing.

tseguin

I remember feeling the same way. I had/still have a fulfilling life, but, your life was consumed with the thought of/and planning a wedding and all or any events leading up to the wedding.  Just relax and enjoy some of the "down time" until life feels more normal and back to pre-wedding planning.

Munashi

Sometimes you just get used to being busy!  Start up a new project if you feel like you need to keep your hands busy, so to speak.