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UPDATE: Would you contact the teacher?
Since the beginning of the school year, DD has been frequently been getting a yellow behavior status (I think most of you are familiar with the color chart system). It's always been for talking when she should have been quiet--which didn't surprise me because DD is a chatterbox.
Recently though, she's gotten yellow marks for: talking back to the teacher; writing on the desk, and an orange one for not keeping her hands to herself. These aren't things I would have expected of her. When I talked to her about it I can tell she's getting frustrated with the amount of waiting she's required to do at school and she's getting upset with all the yellow marks. According to her, most times when she's gotten a yellow mark it's spurred by her having to wait for everyone to finish their work. In the talking back to the teacher incident, the teacher told her to read the book again, and DD replied with, "I already read it 4 times, and it's not even a real book. It doesn't actually tell a story, It's just the same words over and over again."
In the beginning of the year we talked about turning her paper over and writing/drawing on the back of it, which she does. Every single paper she brings home has an elaborate drawing on the back and additional practice of whatever was done on the front. I told her she can do her work more slowly to make sure her letters are more neat or ask the teacher for another worksheet and do it twice (she said her teacher won't give her one).
I know she needs to learn to sit and wait quietly--but I don't know what else to tell her to help her do that. I'm curious about how often and for how long she's being asked to sit and wait -judging by the drawings on the back of her paper I'm thinking it's a substantial amount of time-and I want to help her learn to use her time more wisely.
I also know that there is value in the repetitiveness of the work they're doing, but how do you get a 5 year old to see the value in it and not get frustrated by doing the same thing over and over after they already feel like they "got it".
UPDATE:
I did reach out to Brinley's teacher. She didn't seem to be concerned with the number of yellow marks. She did say that Brinley does finish her work earlier than the rest of the class and is required to wait a few minutes for others to finish up, at which time she's permitted to drawn on the back of the paper (which I knew). She said it typically takes kindergarteners the first full 9 weeks of school to adjust, so her recommendation is for us to keep an eye on it and discuss at parent teacher conferences on Nov. 7th.
I kind of felt the answer was a cop out, but November 7th is only a few weeks away--so we can discuss it more in person.
Recently though, she's gotten yellow marks for: talking back to the teacher; writing on the desk, and an orange one for not keeping her hands to herself. These aren't things I would have expected of her. When I talked to her about it I can tell she's getting frustrated with the amount of waiting she's required to do at school and she's getting upset with all the yellow marks. According to her, most times when she's gotten a yellow mark it's spurred by her having to wait for everyone to finish their work. In the talking back to the teacher incident, the teacher told her to read the book again, and DD replied with, "I already read it 4 times, and it's not even a real book. It doesn't actually tell a story, It's just the same words over and over again."
In the beginning of the year we talked about turning her paper over and writing/drawing on the back of it, which she does. Every single paper she brings home has an elaborate drawing on the back and additional practice of whatever was done on the front. I told her she can do her work more slowly to make sure her letters are more neat or ask the teacher for another worksheet and do it twice (she said her teacher won't give her one).
I know she needs to learn to sit and wait quietly--but I don't know what else to tell her to help her do that. I'm curious about how often and for how long she's being asked to sit and wait -judging by the drawings on the back of her paper I'm thinking it's a substantial amount of time-and I want to help her learn to use her time more wisely.
I also know that there is value in the repetitiveness of the work they're doing, but how do you get a 5 year old to see the value in it and not get frustrated by doing the same thing over and over after they already feel like they "got it".
UPDATE:
I did reach out to Brinley's teacher. She didn't seem to be concerned with the number of yellow marks. She did say that Brinley does finish her work earlier than the rest of the class and is required to wait a few minutes for others to finish up, at which time she's permitted to drawn on the back of the paper (which I knew). She said it typically takes kindergarteners the first full 9 weeks of school to adjust, so her recommendation is for us to keep an eye on it and discuss at parent teacher conferences on Nov. 7th.
I kind of felt the answer was a cop out, but November 7th is only a few weeks away--so we can discuss it more in person.
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Re: UPDATE: Would you contact the teacher?
-Abbey
Jake - 1.15.08
Liam - 5.17.11
What's her reading level? If she is reading a book 4 times while others are reading once then maybe she needs to be reading something more challenging.
My dd has gotten in trouble for being a chatterbox but not because she is done with her work early! Sounds like a good problem and the teacher needs to work on giving her appropriate work
How time flies! Caileigh (9), Keira (6) & Eamon (3)
DD's statement was accurate (albeit rude and disrespectful), the book--wasn't actually a book. It was a few printed sheets of paper with a picture and the words "I like the" and then a picture of something (not the word and a pic, just a pic) on every page.
I like the ball
I like the dog
etc.
The week prior they had one that was exactly the same, but with a different picture.
I like the fish
I like the octopus
etc.
Luckystar2--I also agree with you about getting the teacher's side of the story. DD tells a lot of stories about school that I KNOW aren't true. She'll come clean about it after the fact. But I think in the instances of the yellow marks she knows to tell the real truth, but she could have misinterpreted something.
According to DD she says she's waiting FOREVER, "all I do is wait wait wait--it's so boring". In actuality I have no idea if that's 2 minutes or 10.
I will say dd's teacher says he assigns books that are slightly below their reading level for homework because he wants them practicing and be encouraged rather than struggle at home (although he doesn't do that in class time) I guess that could be the case here? Maybe there are times he assigns easier books for repetition and encouraging them but this sounds well below your dd's level.
I think I would just approach it as being concerned about the yellow marks and hearing teacher's side. Then go from there about how it sounds like it's stemming from dd being bored, etc. I don't think you'd sound like "that" parent!
Hopefully the teacher will be able to work with you and come up with a plan to help your DD succeed. But, even if not, hopefully getting to the bottom of it, especially if she really is getting done with her work early, will help in future placement groups!
(2) #1 frustration in school is down time & boredom. I always say if I could do it I would homeschool & teach my kids in 3 hours what they do in 8 in school & then take them places to show them how what they learn factors into our lives. [sigh!]. Anyway, yes they have to learn how to overcome boredom but there's no reason she can't have extra work to do.
And I agree that's not a book - Keira has the same papers! Sight word recognition.....
How time flies! Caileigh (9), Keira (6) & Eamon (3)