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Keana and Camerro

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artbyallie

Why did you marry him knowing he was like this? Have you ever actually talked to him about how you feel?

TarponMonoxide

Keana and Camerro said:

So me & my husband are newleyweds but we have been living together for some time. I love him and i no he love's me. My husband is shall i say "A Sex Fanatic". He Could Do It EveryDay, AnyDay, AnyTime. But for me i need romance and all that good stuff to go to go to that place where i have a sex drive like his. To be totally honest he does not do romantic stuff for me and constantly make me feel really special.

Let me ask you this: If a romantic guy is important to you, why did you continue to date him when you found out he was not a romantic kind of fella at all?

He wasn't going to change. This doesn't make him a bad guy; he's jut not romantic.

If he doesn't compliment you at all, isn't appreciative and just comes and goes and treats you like a piece of furniture, why are you with him at all?


 I don't think i'm asking for much i would just like to go on dates, picnic's, suprise gifts IDK something nice, anything nice. IS THAT ASKING FOR TO MUCH??

Have you SPOKEN to him about this?

Tell it like it is: "Honey I love you and it would be fabulous if you took me out on date nights and surprised me with something nice. What do you think of that?" And see what he says.

Even if he showed me that he was trying i would be satisfied. I mean he mainly touches this and rubs that, but that can sometimes make me feel like a sex buddy/toy or something.

Don't you and this prince have any communication at all????

When your sex life started...and you saw he was like this --- why did you stay with him???

Talk to him!!! Communication is KEY!!!

SHOW him what feels good! Have you ever masturbated? I suggest you start if you have not  -- and when you find out what makes you orgasm, show him!


I believe our sex life could be so much better. I'm not boring in bed i do stuff i mean alot of stuff but not wierd nasty bad stuff lol!! I don't know what to do because if i'm not feeling satisfied emotionally i'm not going there sexually and with my husband this can go on for days, or a week or two. I no thats bad but that's why i need some advice.

What can go on for days?

You lost me during the last paragraph.

YOu need communication. For the romance thing and for the sex thing.

And my goodness --- what high school did you attend??? Your posts are tough to read --- use full words, not this shitty internet speak where ur not goin ne where with what you are sayN!

WHOLE WORDS...and know the difference between NO and KNOW:

I know that there are no more tickets for the concert.

No, it is not true that my in laws know there is a surprise party for Grandma.

Be in the know and say no to drugs.

See? It's simple.

teedaalee

Men and woman can be completely opposite in the area of intimacy and communication. Have you considered talking to him about your expectations and needs as well as ask him what his are? It can be something worked through and something that grows your marriage if handled properly and respectfully. There are some great books out there on intimacy like Dr. Julianna Slattery’s No More Headaches. There is hope! Hang in there.

teedaalee0712

TarponMonoxide

What you see is what you get. It is not very likely he is going to turn into a big romancer --- lots of guys are not; it's no crime -- and not likely he's going to change into a raving sex maniac who will ravage you all night long and keep you coming back for more.

Maybe he isn't a romantic guy -- but he certainly better be appreciative. Tell you that you look great, that the dinner you made was fantastic, hold the seat for you when you sit down, things like that.

If you want better sex and you want him to do something like bring you flowers, better tell him. It's his business to oblige.  His goal is to make sure you are happy, as it is yours to make sure he is.

Keana and Camerro

In the beginning it was not at all like this. Our communication line is very strong and effective in alot of other areas. When I talk to him about this he hears me, tells me he understands and honestly the problem is that there is no consistency at all. I love him so much he is everything I could ever hope for and more but this is the only problem we have. I have to say this has improved becaus of us having constant talks about it so in a sense you were all acknowledging what i was already doing and it seems to be working. So Thanks!

TarponMonoxide

Keana and Camerro said:

In the beginning it was not at all like this. Our communication line is very strong and effective in alot of other areas. When I talk to him about this he hears me, tells me he understands and honestly the problem is that there is no consistency at all.

Then hie is not fully listening to you and he is not making good on what he said he'd do.

You need to sit down and talk to him again --- and a counselor would not be a bad idea. You 2 both need to l earn how to communicate. As I said, that is key. If you don't have that, forget it.

I love him so much he is everything I could ever hope for and more but this is the only problem we have. I have to say this has improved becaus of us having constant talks about it so in a sense you were all acknowledging what i was already doing and it seems to be working. So Thanks!

Wait a second...in paragraph ! you said he is not following through...and in the second one you say he is -- "it seems to be working"???

Keana and Camerro

I see what you mean let me explain I have no consistency in our romance department but I have noticed for a few days that he gives me more compliments and does more small gestures. Things like dates, bringing flowers or chocolate etc. which I consider to be extremely romantic are not regular nor semi-regular. Sorry for the confusion hop this clears it up. <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />