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Feelings about a sprinkle

1993feb1993feb member
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edited November 2014 in Family Matters
I just have a question.  Im trying to see how others would feel.  My husband has 2 sisters, one is married with children.  We both have 2 children each.  Her kids are actually each 3 months younger than ours.  I recently found out by accident (on facebook) that my mil and sil threw her a sprinkle when we were both pregnant with our second children.  Now I was not invited and it was never even mentioned to me yet close family and friends were invited.  Now I  would not have wanted one for myself, but I feel it is so weird.  My inlaws didn't even visit me until the next day and maybe for an hour.   How would you feel? 

Re: Feelings about a sprinkle

  • We're actually doing a sprinkle for a co-worker in two weeks. I think they are a great way for a mom to get a few new small things like diapers, pacificers & a new bottles, etc. Now onto the issue of your MIL throwing one of your SIL a sprinkle. I could maybe she thought your mom would throw you one so she didn't because she didn't want to step on your mom's toes. But why she didn't invite you to SIL's, that seems a little rude. In regards to the visit, what time of day did you have your baby? I know when my friends and family have a baby, unless it's early in the day, I usually wait until the next day to go visit to give the mom some time to recover & relax and I try not to stay too long. I really do that when it's the second child figuring that this time in the hospital may be the mom's only time to relax and get some piece and quiet before having to deal with the craziness of a newborn & another child when she returns home. But that's just me. Now how would I feel in your shoes, I don't honestly know.

  • I understand thinking maybe my mom or sisters would give it if I wanted it.  I just feel its weird they never asked my husband and never even mentioned it to me.  I had my second at 8 in the morning by planned C-section.  Thanks for your opinion. 
  • It does sound a little strange that she didn't invite you to the sprinkle - I can see why you might feel a little awkward or confused about it. What is your husband's perspective? Do you have the kind of relationship with either your MIL or SIL that you can ask about it?

    FreeButterfly70
  • I actually saw it on facebook and told him.  He is really mad and wants to ask about it.  He already feels our kids and I aren't treated equally, but I don't want trouble.  And I don't want to mention how I found out. 
  • Honestly, have your DH call them out and then stop being around them. 

    Favortism hurts.  And the only way to stop your kids from being hurt is to keep them from the people/situations where they will be hurt. 
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  • Sounds like you and your husband are on the same page. Did he end up talking to them?

    FreeButterfly70
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