Choose between delaying Baby, Belated Honeymoon, or Extra Retirement?

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Xstatic3333 said:

hoffse said:

alyssa32713 said:

als1982 said:

What if tomorrow never comes? My parents planned on traveling after retirement, but then my dad died of a heart attack at 55, before they had the opportunity. We travel today, because you never know what life will throw at you - a child with special needs who requires constant care, a diagnosis of serious illness or an unexpected injury - that might prevent it down the road.

I guess it depends what is most important to you. If H died tomorrow I would regret not having the chance to have children with him. I wouldn't regret not taking that cruise to Alaska.

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It does depend on what's most important to you.  Right now, I'm really not chomping at the bit to have kids.  I mean, logically I know we should sort of start thinking about it because I'm 28, but the notion of TTC honestly makes me more nervous than excited.  I had a baby-brain at 24 and haven't had it since.  I'm hoping I get there again in the next year or two.  I kind of wish I had raging maternal instincts, but I just don't.

I think it's about balancing what you have now vs. planning for the future.  Living like you have no future is sort of depressing, regardless of what that mindset is compelling you to prioritize (travel, kids, etc).  On the other hand, yes - something really bad could happen in the future, which makes savoring the now all the more important.  I think about the future so much that I'm not very good at living in the now.  My H is much better about that, and it's truly one of the reasons I married him.  

You articulated my feelings on the TTC thing much better than I did.  It's going to be a huge life change for me-I mean, it is for everyone of course, but for me it will mean giving up a passion/avocation, and that's tough.  I'm 30 though, and know that I want at least one child, so I'm working on getting in the TTC mindset.  This thread actually just sparked a conversation between my H and I about our priorities and timelines.  It looks like for us one last big trip (hopefully Peru) and then TTC next fall will be the best way forward.  He's a more a quiet guy and I hadn't really realized how ready HE was, and hearing him say that out loud made me feel a lot more excited about it.  These priorities are really different for every couple, and it's tough to find a balance sometimes!

omg is it a life change.  I much prefer outside babies.  Pregnancy freaks me out.  The fact that we will be doing it again in 1 year makes me nervous I will have all the same symptoms again but it is only temporary (9 months) and you get a lifetime of happiness.