Did you keep your single friends after you got married?

taralee1983

Or did you push them away.  I heard this happens but I was wondering if it was really that often.

GilliC

taralee1983 said:

Or did you push them away.  I heard this happens but I was wondering if it was really that often.

/:)  I think you only hear about this happening from the people who felt pushed away. I don't think anyone intentionally thinks, "I'm married now. I should distance myself from these unmarried people that I like."

BlueBirdMB

I have all the same friends I before.  I never felt pushed away from my friends who were married before me.  What I have felt is pushed away by my friends who have had children.  They've started only inviting other people with children to some events and we will not do this when we have children.  It's super annoying.

joleri23

BlueBirdMB said:

What I have felt is pushed away by my friends who have had children.  They've started only inviting other people with children to some events and we will not do this when we have children.  It's super annoying.

True that! None of the girls in my core group is married or even engaged but that never seems to be a problem. The biggest problem was the one friend/relative (she married my brother-in-law) who had a kid. I don't know if it was her new lifestyle or what, but she almost seemed high and mighty after having a kid, like she belonged to some exclusive club.

puppylove2014

Heck yes! I dropped those single losers the second he put a ring on it! (kidding, of course)

Being married hasn't been an issue with keeping or losing friends for the most part. 

I did have one friend who wouldn't invite single people to her parties after she married. I am not friends with her anymore. I always thought she was kind of an ass, but once she admitted she wasn't inviting one of our best friends to parties because she was single, I was done with her. 

As far as kids, yeah, people are so busy and wrapped up in it they often don't have time to put into their friendships. I've found if you have a close relationship and stay supportive and available you can certainly keep the friendship. For others, this may be where you grow apart.

GilliC

puppylove2014 said:

I did have one friend who wouldn't invite single people to her parties after she married. I am not friends with her anymore. I always thought she was kind of an ass, but once she admitted she wasn't inviting one of our best friends to parties because she was single, I was done with her. 

Why would it matter? Do you know? I'm genuinely curious, because this boggles my mind!

puppylove2014

GilliC said:

puppylove2014 said:

I did have one friend who wouldn't invite single people to her parties after she married. I am not friends with her anymore. I always thought she was kind of an ass, but once she admitted she wasn't inviting one of our best friends to parties because she was single, I was done with her. 

Why would it matter? Do you know? I'm genuinely curious, because this boggles my mind!

She basically tried not to answer that question and sorta mumbled something about her (single friend) not "fitting in". When I asked her what the Hell that was supposed to mean, she realized her mistake and tried to back pedal that she'd meant she (single friend) might feel weird at gatherings with all couples. 

Of course her husbands single male friends were more than welcome. 

I think it was really her husband that was the issue. I found out later that he did not like her hanging out with single friends period. He always rubbed me the wrong way too.

nurse714

I didn't push my single friends away but we do hang out less, but the love is still there. We do girls night but I don't go out when they party because they're just into picking up guys and I kind of feel out of place, not to mention, they will stay out very late and I don't think that's appropriate for me to do now that I'm married. 

nurse714

GilliC said:

puppylove2014 said:

I did have one friend who wouldn't invite single people to her parties after she married. I am not friends with her anymore. I always thought she was kind of an ass, but once she admitted she wasn't inviting one of our best friends to parties because she was single, I was done with her. 

Why would it matter? Do you know? I'm genuinely curious, because this boggles my mind!

I know quite a few wives that feel this way. They don't want single women around their husbands. They don't want to provide the temptation. 

GilliC

NurseRobinson said:

GilliC said:

puppylove2014 said:

I did have one friend who wouldn't invite single people to her parties after she married. I am not friends with her anymore. I always thought she was kind of an ass, but once she admitted she wasn't inviting one of our best friends to parties because she was single, I was done with her. 

Why would it matter? Do you know? I'm genuinely curious, because this boggles my mind!

I know quite a few wives that feel this way. They don't want single women around their husbands. They don't want to provide the temptation. 

We need feminism because
 
Single women are held responsible
for married men's behavior

Cindy41710

I'm still friends with the single or now-divorced friends who were my closest friends over the years.  We may be on different levels now as far as what we like to do (most likely them going out to bars and closing them and me preferring to stay home), but we make it a point to get together for lunch or Christmas shopping or whatever.  We also invite them when we have people over so as to make sure we still get time together.

catsareniice1

No, I told them to screw! Of course, I kept them. If these friends are your true friends why would getting married change anything? I never understood that.

LD1970

Obviously I did.  And I stay out late, too.