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Post-wedding depression - could use some guidence
I know there are a lot of posts out there already about this, but many are a couple years old, so I wanted to reach out again. And this is my first nest post.
I got married just this past weekend, 12/13/14. It was AMAZING. I found wedding planning to be extremely stressful and when it was time for the big day, I was so ready to just throw it all into the air and let the chips fall. It was a great feeling and I think I had a better experience because of it. But as the reception grew to a close, I began to not know what to do with myself. I was literally just kind of hanging out in the bathroom for part of it so i could think for a second. By the following morning, I was sad. And now I am suffering from some full blown post wedding blues. I am struggling at work and find myself crying quite a bit. I love my husband to death, I married the man of my dreams, why am I so sad??? I would love to hear from some others on their experiences with PWD. How long does this feeling last? I appreciate all the help!
Re: Post-wedding depression - could use some guidence
Give yourself some time, you just got off this huge high! Try to refocus on the things you did before all the planning began! Do you like to cook? Do you like to go the gym?
Also try not to stress...you are the same two people you were before you got married. Even if how people perceive you has changed, that doesn't mean you two and/or your relationship has changed.
If you think you're having a real rough time of it, maybe stop in for a session or 2 with a social worker or counselor. I don't know quite what's up with how you feel..
(Weddings are draining, both energy wisse and emotions wise. And sometimes the drain goes on past the day of the wedding --- I was still duking it out with the reception site and the limo company --- the photo matt vanished at the reception site ("Maybe someoby thought it was trash" they told us) and the limo guy insisted we owed them $200 of overtime limo money. They had the coat that belonged to my MOH and woldn't give it back until we paid up.:()
You & I have a lot in common. I finally don't feel so alone & crazy! I also got married on 12.13.14. I put my heart & soul into planning & creating our wedding. Down to stamping our napkins. It was a very diy wedding. When it started to come to the end I started crying I was already so sad it was ending. As happy as I was to be married, it was this strange feeling of knowing all of the work & planning...this labor of love was over. We left for our week long honeymoon the next morning & I was in paradise...our honeymoon was a bucket list for both of us & just perfect. I don't work yet & on our last night in Maui I couldn't imagine what I would do with myself coming home. I have still felt that way & I fight it every single day. I have 2 daughters from a previous marriage so I try to stay busy, but they are older. There isn't much aside from moving forward....planning other things to do..(I've been cleaning out my apt & reorganizing) looking for work, trying my hardest to focus on the positive & not how much I want to live in Maui & redo my wedding day or something. My husband has been very supportive & I've talked to him about how I feel. Other than that, if it lasts more than a few weeks, I'll go see a therapist. Im so relived to know im not alone though.