guilt over my response

janeone

I'm feeling very bad about how I responded to an email from a family who lives overseas  she  told me her daughter has to have a mastectomy and I went on about my problems, I feeling very guilty   I did write and apologise and now I think I could have done a better job of that i know its because  I am seriously depressed with some life changing problems but I can not stop thinking about this  and I've not heard back from her since. I think about ringing her but now a few weeks have gone by, I seem to be always doing the wrong thing and acting in self cantered ways I know this is my depression which is making me act this way. I just don't know what to do.

puppylove2014

Your ability to recognize your error and apologize says a lot. We all have our moments. Don't beat yourself up over it.

Maybe she hasn't responded because she is busy. I would send her another email or maybe a card saying you'd like to know how her daughter is doing and to please call. I would also explain you really want to be there for her. 

When you are having a difficult time, like you are, it can be very helpful to be there for someone else. It helps to take the focus of yourself and get out of your own head, even if it is just for a bit. 

Good luck!

GilliC

I agree. Drop her a note to ask how her daughter is doing and to tell her that she's been in your thoughts.

Trust me, living overseas it's always nice to get a note from someone back home, even if you don't always have the time to reply.

Erikan73

She maybe busy help her daughter through this difficult time. I agree with other posters,send her a card to just let her know you are thinking of her and her daughter and hope all is going well.