Buying A Home
EricaOO
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Can't agree on a location
DH and I are finally ready to buy a house. We're currently in the process of getting pre-approved. This should be an exciting time for us but all we do is fight about WHERE we want to buy. DH wants a house farther out in the suburbs. We would get more house for our money. Homes are newer, have all the "pretty" appliances and open floor plans. The neighborhood and schools are great. The downside is my commute would be longer, 40-60min one way, depending on the day. It's also a longer drive to my parents house. They watch our daughter once a week and still help me out on the weekends (my husband is in law enforcement and works weekends/nights). I would love to live in the town DH wants but I'm just afraid of being "far." Anyone in a similar situation? Or anyone think I'm actually being spoiled and this commute isn't bad?
Re: Can't agree on a location
On the other side, my H has a 45-60 minute commute and doesn't really mind. He does work off hours that cause him to miss the AM rush, however. These things can really vary for different people.
A further commute will mean more gas and routine maintenance on your car, plus it will probably need repairs sooner just being driven a lot more. Then you have the added risk of car accidents - being in the car more. And, you have the issue of the emotional and mental toll as well as physical toll a long commute takes on the body.
Being a mom of 3 kids 4 and under, I know that having access to child care is a big deal, not just for the routine scheduled dates, but for emergencies too.
Also, while newer homes are sparkly and fresh, the building quality isn't as good as homes built in the early or mid-1990's or older, unless these are super custom/high-end McMansions.
My vote is for the shorter commute, closer to child care, with a home that has better finishes and more quality construction labor and materials.