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Parents talking about my weight.
In my household the main dinner table topic seems to be my weight. I am a 20 year old female, 5.5ft/167cm and weigh 9.4st/60kg. Honestly, I was always quite confident about my body, but recently all my father wants to talk about is how fat I am. Sometimes he is just saying things as a joke, but other times he is serious. It's really knocked my confidence.
My mother tells me to ignore him, but even she has been doing little things that make me feel big. The other day she made onion soup and gave me a separate portion that had no cream or bread. She's also started serving my food on child sized plates.
Whenever I talk to anyone about it they say I should just talk to my parents. I already tried this and my dad just got worse. I'm starting to feel that the only sulution is to move out. Does anyone else have a similar problem?
Re: Parents talking about my weight.
You are 20, make a stand now, do the things I wish I had been brave enough to do. Every time someone makes a comment, redirect them, say your weight is off limits and if they cannot respect that you cannot sit/be with them. If they continue move out, continue to redirect and hold your boundaries.
it is okay.
Do not let anybody insult you, even if it *is* your parents. Nobody has a right to say horrible thngs that make you feel bad.
Tell them point blank "I look FINE for my weight and I want you to cut the comments out now" -- take no prisoners on this one. Be as blunt and as frank as you can.
If they keep it up, consider keeping a low profile and going AWOL from their lives. let them figure out why you won't talk to them --and if they give you a holler and want to know where you've been, tell them exactly why they have not heard from you: "I got tired of your comments. That is why."
Notice i said "was.":(
I recently became quite overweight due to an illness. I can't move well and my meds have slowed my metabolism down BIGTIME! Also, a symptom of my illness is extreme weight gain. I hate when people judge people on weight, looks, etc. You never know what someone might be going through.
You are small. What the heck are they even talking about? I say a serious convo if your last one wasn't. If they are not responsive in a positive way then I would move out if you can.
Good luck!