Advice needed please

snowmobilechicka

So I just found out that my husband has not been happy in our marriage and that he has been on different websites talking to other girls. He even bought underwear and a hat for a girl out of state. He says he has never touched another women, and I do believe him. I just never thought this would happen to us. I love him with all my heart and want this relationship to work.

puppylove2014

STD test tomorrow and counselling. That's my advice.

catsareniice1

Wow! GL! Ditto puppylove.

I would leave him based on the fact he bought another woman a hat and UNDERWEAR! Yes. Get tested! GL!!

Erikan73

Get tested and start talking to each other. If you need to, bring in a professional. You need to both figure out why there is unhappines and what if anything you are both willing to do to change things. You both need to go into this with an open mind and be willing to listen to what the other says and then talk about ways to improve things or if things have gotten to the point where nothing can be done to make you both happy & you need to look into going seperate ways. But you owe it to your marriage to at least try to figure out where things went off course. Because if you just give up without trying to figure out where it went wrong, you'll be left wondering forever, and that could affect any future relationships should you end up divorced.  And see if you can get him to agree that for the time frame you are working figuring things out, that he stops communicating with other women so that he can have a clear mind to help figure out what is going on with your marriage & where it is going. Good luck!!

artbyallie

The fact that his solution was talking to other girls rather than talking to you and/or a counselor tells me all I need to know. Why would you even still love him after finding out he's such a creep?

NoneForUs

snowmobilechicka said:

So I just found out that my husband has not been happy in our marriage and that he has been on different websites talking to other girls. He even bought underwear and a hat for a girl out of state. He says he has never touched another women, and I do believe him. I just never thought this would happen to us. I love him with all my heart and want this relationship to work.

How much do you love yourself? 

Think about that before trying to repair a marriage with such a sneaky man.