Moving?

SimplyJennifered

Hi all! Was hoping for some input from others to try and sort out what's going on/share any advice. My DH & I currently own (no mortgage) a home in NYS where we are both finishing up Graduate School/Medic School, and have started considering relocating to North Carolina within the next few years.  I have few concerns, obviously. Mainly, because I grew up in such a tight knit family, I don't know how I'd feel about raising a family in a completely different state.  My mom managed to move from NYC to Western New York after High School, but our family is originally from WNY so she had a family support system here already waiting for her. How do you ladies deal with leaving family behind?

I also wouldn't want to move into an apartment - we have lots of fur babies, and an apartment would be out of the question in that aspect.  I know it's not completely practical... Do any of you ladies have experience with this?

I know I'm slightly attached to our home now mainly because it's our first house we bought, & will be in the process of renovating soon.  Renovations are necessary - if we decide to sell or stay here, I doubt anyone (including myself) would want to live with 1970's golf pants plaid wallpaper and paneling! I wasn't so attached to our previous apartment, probably because it was just that, not a home that could provide a lifetime of memories.  Do you ladies think I'm thinking too much into this? Or is it normal?  I don't know if I'm going crazy! haha

Thanks for all your help!

FutureMrsMerati

Hi there - I moved from PA to CT (3.5 hours away) so I can relate. Although it won't be easy leaving your family, I think you should feel fortunate that you are married and would have a built-in support system there, when I moved I was just out of college and knew absolutely no one which was extremely challenging. I have absolutely no regrets though, I love where I ended up, met my husband and made lifelong friends here. Despite being happily married and still enjoying living in CT, I have to admit, I still struggle with the idea of raising a family several states away from my parents. My family really enjoys coming to visit me in CT and experiencing my life here, so that's an added dynamic you should consider.

I'm just curious, you haven't really said why you're considering relocating to NC? In any event, I think you will have to realize that there are sacrifices to be made in both cases, and weigh the pros/cons of each. At least you won't be having "snowmageddon" in North Carolina, not to mention the cost of living should be significantly less than the Northeast! I'm sure you and your husband could surely afford just as nice of a home, if not nicer and for much less money, and could make lasting memories with your family there!