MY HUSBAND IS GETTING FAT!

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When we met 10+ years ago, he was at a normal weight of about 175-185. A couple years ago he was diagnosed with VERY high cholesterol.He's never revealed his weight to me, but I'm guessing he was lingering around the 210-220 range. I think the cholesterol news scared him, so he started eating right and exercising. He lost some weight.

But over the past year, he's fallen off the wagon and he's definitely 210 lbs. or more by now. Eating Oreos, brownies, chips, candy, etc. And packing on pounds. It's not just about his weight, but his health overall. Along with high cholesterol comes risk for heart disease and diabetes. I'm not trying to be a widow in my early 30's!!!

I've tried to be proactive by buying him lots of fresh fruit and healthier snacks like peanuts and veggie chips. He doesn't want that stuff, or he'll have a little and let the rest spoil. His weakness is sweets/desserts.

For Christmas I even bought him a 6 week program with a personal trainer and dietician. It's been over a month and he still hasn't set the appointment.

I don't know what else to do. If I was the one packing on pounds, he'd definitely make a big deal about it.

Tips? Advice?

joleri23

You probably SHOULDN'T make a big deal out of it, because that's not a good incentive. How about asking if he'd like to take a walk with you every evening? You could also try making healthy versions of sweets.

meredith828

I have been there!! My husband was in RIDICULOUS shape when we met. He played a bunch of sports and was very conscious of what he ate. Then we got married...... Fast forward a few years and he had gained 20lbs. He's only 5'7 so 20lbs REALLY shows. He was buying pants a few sizes bigger too. I am pretty health conscious, so I cook healthy dinners. I figured it had to be what he was eating while at work, so one evening I asked him what he ate for lunch at work. His response shocked me. Not only was he eating Wendy's, pizza, chinese, etc but he was spending about $50 a week on food. After that I started packing his lunch. He isn't big on breakfast and I'm sure he still eats at least 1 Snickers Bar a day, but at least I know he's eating a healthy lunch and dinner. After a few months of that I decided that I would buy an exercise program for us to do at home. I didn't get a girly Jillian Michaels' DVD, i got a "MAN DVD" as he would say I told him that I really wanted to get back into amazing shape and that I would be more likely to stick with it if he did it with me. I made it seem like I needed him to workout with me for accountability and motivation. (he still thinks that he was helping me out ) We worked out together 5 days a week at home and not only did we get in "us" time but we both lost weight and got into great shape. Now, 3 years later, he's still in great shape, we still workout at home together and it has brought us closer together. It worked out really well without me having to tell him that he was getting fat!! I'm happy to help!!