any one left?

irishprincess331

I have been married for a year and I am 30 yo. ALL of my girl friends have kids, or are having kids. every. single. one. I do want them some day but want to still enjoy a bit of freedom while I can. It makes me sad that when my husband is going away and I cant even find one friend to have a drink/meal with. I am so depressed I feel like I don't have anyone left.

chrisnjay05212010

I totally understand that.  We have been married for 4.5 years.  I'll be 31 this year. The difference is we aren't planning on kids at all.

 All of my friends (except one) has or is having kids.  It is depressing to feel like you are losing your friends.  I feel like they will slowly just stop reaching out because they are busy or because they'll think im not interested in their kid filled lives.

irishprincess331

I know, its already been begun and I am just at a loss. I need to find a place to make friends

chrisnjay05212010

I made a few new friends at the gym, im really big into zumba and yoga. My husband and I joined a motorcycle group so we are making friends there too. 

Do you guys have any hobbies?

irishprincess331

We do both have hobbies ( gym, outdoors etc). A lot of our friends had the same ones, but now with kids we will have to find new people to do them with.

chrisnjay05212010

I tell my DH he better get used to spending lots of time with me because we arent going to have anyone else  :-S

dutchgirl76

I'm in the same boat, DH and I never want kids and he works a rotating schedule which includes most weekends (even weekend nights.) A lot of our friends have kids, some work weekends to work around day care. Other childless friends work weird schedules so we have to plan over a month in advance to get everyone in the same place at the same time. It can be very depressing, you shouldn't have to rearrange your life around when everyone can squeeze you in or DH isn't busy.

I love the idea of meeting friends at the gym. Sadly I'm not really a gym rat (although I should be.) I do like to knit so I found a group that meets on Friday nights. It's not much and a lot of older ladies, but it gets me out of the house. I'd love to find a book club or some other interest group to meet new people around my age. I don't even care if they have children although a good old fashioned grown up outing would be more fun.

climbingwife

We have a pretty diverse group of friends. A lot of my closest girlfriends don't have kids. However, a lot of our couple friends do. We're not planning on having kids ever, and I have noticed that a lot of times, we get left out of events. It's probably our friends assuming we don't want to be around all their kids. But it still hurts too.