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Pre-approved but what range do I look in?

Hi Everyone,

I am pre approved for a $175,000 home but I do know that houses are not sold at their asking price. Does that mean I can look at a $200,000 home and bid for my pre approval amount? I just don't want to be looking at homes that are out of my range. My realtor is helpful but he seems to dance around this question.

Thanks for you help. 


Re: Pre-approved but what range do I look in?

  • Oh, heavens NO!
    A lender will still give you a mortgage that you cannot really afford - or at minimum make you house poor.
    First of all you need to sit down and look at your budget. Cold hard facts about what comes in and what goes out.  If you do not have a budget - spend the next 2 months tracking every dollar.
    How much can you afford for a monthly payment - while keeping your total housing costs no more than 25-28% of your TAKEHOME pay (after you decide if you are financing this based on one income or two)  That must included mortgage+PMI+insurance+taxes+HOA+utilities.
    Now add more for basic maintenance that is always ongoing.
    Have your 6 month's expenses in an emergency fund - you NEED that with a home. (job loss, illness, and assorted other of life's unexpected happenings.
    Kids - do you plan to continue to work (did you add day care costs to your budget?)
    Plan to stay at home  (did you allow for loss of your income?)
    Do you have other debt?
    In addition to your 20% down payment, have your closing costs in hand, moving and utility deposits, repair/renovations, decorating, additional furniture and appliances, tools, ladders, etc, yard items, deck?

    You need the assistance of a good realtor to inform you as to what comps are selling for (in my area it is close to asking, or slightly over - occasionally a slight but under - but never what you are proposing.

    Before you get too into the house scene - read these 2 books.
    House Buying for Dummies
    Mortgages for Dummies

    A house is sooooo much more than the monthly mortgage payment.  Arm yourself with information first - then examine your needs - separate from wants.  Prioritize them, BEFORE you even step foot in a house for sale.
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  • All of the above and then this.....

    Don't forget, even with a fixed rate mortgage, property taxes and insurance normally only go up, so your escrow payment and thus your monthly mortgage payment can go up.  So you don't want to be at your max and then have your city/county up your taxes or the insurance company up your rate.

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  • jtmh2012 said:

    All of the above and then this.....

    Don't forget, even with a fixed rate mortgage, property taxes and insurance normally only go up, so your escrow payment and thus your monthly mortgage payment can go up.  So you don't want to be at your max and then have your city/county up your taxes or the insurance company up your rate.

    Oh my goodness, yes!  I got my yearly escrow statement a few weeks ago and my mortgage payment is going up $200 next month, because I bought much better insurance in May of last year.  So now I have to both make up for my escrow shortage PLUS the additional monthly cost of the insurance.  Granted, insurance is super high where I live, but still.

    Agree 100x what the other PPs said about YOU deciding for yourself what your preapproval should be.  Typically that number is much less than what your bank will say.  There are free mortgage calculators online you can use to determine if you buy a house for $X, your mortgage payment will be $X...but then PMI (if putting less than 20% down), taxes, and insurance will need to be added to that amount as well.  Look at what you can afford for housing, per month.

    As to your original question, it can really vary by both market conditions and area you are buying in.  It will also vary by the property.  If a seller already has their home listed around what it appraises for and they aren't "motivated", they probably won't take much off.  If you are in a pretty tight, hot market, you can generally expect to pay whatever the list price is.

    That might be why your agent is being dodgy.  If you show him a specific property, he is more likely to have an answer than if you are just asking him a general question like, "What percent can I knock off a list price and have my offer considered?"

    Once you decide on what house price is best for you, I think it would be a good idea to also look at houses that are 10-20% higher than that.  That will hopefully put some houses in your radar that could be negotiated down a bit...especially if they look a bit overpriced to begin with and/or have "issues", like repairs needed, ugly paint colors, clutter, etc.  Or if there are trigger words in the ad like "must sell", "make an offer", etc.

  • Sorry, I should've put a back story. $175,000 is based on my salary alone. We did not even factor in my husband's salary. We did the math and $175,000 is a comfortable amount that we can afford based on all the factors you mentioned above. We are paying the full 20% of a $175,000. My question is geared around when bidding on a house, how much does it usually drop in price. This can help me determine what range to look in.

    Thank you for your help.
  • Sometimes they don't. Sometimes they go up in price.

    What you need to do is figure out what you can actually afford. Look for houses in that range and when you find one that you like, have your realtor run the comps on it. That will tell you what a fair value for the house is and what a good offering would be. Sometimes houses are priced high, sometimes low, sometimes spot on.
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  • Hanging out on these boards with people from all over has shown me that these things really vary regionally, and even by town. In my city they tend to go down, but two towns over there are constant bidding wars. Your seller's agent should have some pretty good advice in this area.
  • slpankuch said:

    Sorry, I should've put a back story. $175,000 is based on my salary alone. We did not even factor in my husband's salary. We did the math and $175,000 is a comfortable amount that we can afford based on all the factors you mentioned above. We are paying the full 20% of a $175,000. My question is geared around when bidding on a house, how much does it usually drop in price. This can help me determine what range to look in.


    Thank you for your help.



    A lot of factors play into this answer. If the house has been on the market a long time, then you may have more leverage in getting the price lowered. But, the best place to look will be in the comparison sales in the area for the same or similar square footage of home. If you're looking at a 4 bed, 2.5 home with an attached 2 car garage on a .25 acre lot and these types of homes have recently sold for $160k, then offering around the comp amount makes sense.

    It really isn't a buyer's market in many places anymore. So, seller's aren't looking for low ball offers. But your REA will have the best advice on this.

  • What a great question!  I applaud your desire to figure this out rather than just trust the "advice" given to you by your lender.  The real answer is and always will be to run the numbers yourself using YOUR finances and YOUR lifestyle and YOUR unique situation.  Lenders aren't allowed to ask about certain critical pieces of personal information that drastically affect how much home you can afford --- how many kids you have, are you sending them to private school, are you supporting an elderly family member, etc.  The only answer is to take charge and build a realistic budget rather than trust a known broken process.

    One place you can go to help you with this is a new website called www.Nestiny.com.  They have lots of tips about buying a home and have a True Affordability Calculator that helps you lay out your finances and relate it to how much home you can afford.  It's free....so it's worth checking out.

    Just my two cents!  
  • Houses where I live rarely sell for less than asking price, very often they sell over asking depending on location.
  • Houses where I live rarely sell for less than asking price, very often they sell over asking depending on location.

    Totally.  Where the heck is the depressed housing market?  In the worst of times, houses were still selling for over asking price in our area.
  • Florida where we own our other home and can't sell it
  • I always always looked way lower than we were pre-approved for and now I am so thankful we did this!  Personally, I know multiple couples that are slaves to their mortgages and are house poor.  My best advice is look lower than you want to pay.  It's worth it when you can pay your bills with no worry and have a lot of money leftover to save at the end of each month. 
  • Comps should give you an idea of the selling price vs asking price in your area. We recently bought a second home and the houses there ranged from asking price to about 10% less. It also gave us an idea about the cost per square foot so we knew if their asking price was reasonable or not.
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