Money Matters
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Interesting article...
... especially since I would bet that most of us were on theknot.com at some point:
Re: Interesting article...
Hopefully other brides read this article and can see how much more realistic the median is.
Love: March 2010 Marriage: July 2013 Debt Free: October 2014 TTC: May 2015
Oy! This is the reason we had a small wedding....
Exactly this, even the NJ part.
Where in NJ are you? I am in Northern NJ
Going to The Knot, you can really see where the wedding industry has just INGRAINED itself into people's minds really starting in childhood. So many brides have attitudes of it "HAS to be this WAY" and it "HAS to be that way". "It just DOES." "Because, because...that's how it IS".
And I'm not necessarily badmouthing them...I was a bit the same way until I saw the light...I just think its such a shame that so many women/men appear to feel the need to live up to this "vision" of inviting every single relative and 200 of their closest friends, destination bachelor/ette parties, $1,000 cakes, $5,000 dresses.
And, hey, I'm not saying any of those choices are bad if they are what a couple wants, it comfortably fits into their budget, AND comfortably fits into their friends' budgets (for ie parties, attire). But so much of the stuff people stress over with weddings is NOT necessary. There are so many great ways to cut costs and still have a beautiful, fantastic day that your guests enjoy.
Sure, I would have liked to have waltzed down the aisle in a $25K Vera Wang original and then partied the night away at my $200K reception at the Waldorf Astoria. But can I think of a 1,000 other ways I would rather spend that money? Heck yeah. But the same concept goes for even something more scaled down.
My budget was $5,000 period. I just wasn't going to spend any more money than that on one day. Not including the dress, travel expenses (got married out of state), or the honeymoon. My budget for my dress was $600, including alterations.
In actuality, my mom paid for most of the reception. But I'm sure it was still under $5,000. Small wedding, just close friends and family, 35 people. One wedding cake and one groom's cake...under $100 total.
Now I have to brag about one of my all time best MM moments. I got my dream dress for $200 plus $100 to have it pressed by a dry cleaner. I ordered it from Hong Kong, sent in my measurements, though I assumed I would still have to have it altered locally. Nope. It was gorgeous and fit me perfectly right out of the box.