May Updates

minionlover

Whats happening/happened this month?

goatlady12

My nephew failed his sleep study and has to stay on oxygen when he's sleeping for another month when they'll reevaluate. My sister is really bummed she really didn't want to spend her whole maternity leave dealing with oxygen tanks. His health is great other than his lungs. Hoping he heals soon.

ramstein1027

Wow..a lot.  And it's only the 5th.  

My great aunt passed away, she was 93 and had a good long life.  Reminded how big and great and crazy my family is every time we get together---funerals are kind of like reunions, in a way.

I just found out that my half sister (my dad was in high school when she was born) has been in an abusive marriage these past 14 years.  He's also been abusive towards the kids.  He turned her cell phone off over the weekend because she spent the weekend in a shelter, and CPS is involved.  Like so many women, she ended up going back to him Monday.  He has been texting me from her phone pretending to be her.  We are trying to get her out, but it's hard bc she is so brainwashed.  I referred her to a good attorney, but I can't make her go.  This is why I don't practice family law.  

My aunt (moms older sister) doesn't have much longer with her breast cancer.  She is hoping to make it to her daughter's wedding in June.  Cancer has spread to her pelvis and she is now in a wheelchair.  She's only 63. 

I've been so miserable at my job, but yesterday my boss came in and complimented my work, told me she wants me to stay a long time, and gave me almost a 15% raise.  So...guess I'm staying?  Not forever, but for a year at least.  

On a bright note, DH and I booked a trip back to Key West for September!  We haven't been since our honeymoon!  It's not a "kid place" and I really want one last trip there before we have kids.  So excited!

People are starting to bug us about having kids.  Sometimes I think about replying and saying how much trouble I've had with my menstrual cycles just to see what they say :P Hey, if you don't want to know about my reproductive health, don't bring it up.  

\:D/

xxjen015

Ready for the last day of school!!!! Tomorrow is Career Day, Friday is Field Day, and then after that we have a week and a half with the kiddos. Their last day is May 20th, ours is May 22nd. I'm counting down the days, especially after rough days like today. 

As soon as school is out, I'll be having surgery on at least one foot for my tarsal tunnel. I went last night for an MRI on both ankles and I go to the podiatrist who will be working with my orthopedist for the surgery (hopefully) tomorrow and find out hopefully when they'll do the surgery and if they can do both feet at once, or if they have to do them separately. We're betting on separately.

I'm really excited for this weekend!! My brother is getting married on Saturday. He and his FI have been together for forever. Even though they're only two hours away, I haven't seen them since before they got engaged back in the fall. I'm really excited to see them.

Any day now I should be getting my new computer! For my birthday we ordered me a MacBook Pro. I've always been 100% PC, but now that I'm getting ready for kids and want to do some photo editing, I've accepted that I should get a mac. 

brainybrunette

@xxjen015, you'll love your Mac! I made the switch in grad school and have never looked back!

Here's the life update:

Foot/Ankle - The foot is still broken (as of X-rays taken about 4 weeks ago), but bone is growing...slowly. The dr. recommended a bone stimulator, but it's $2,000 and the efficacy is only like 30% (basically getting me 1.3 mm of bone growth compared to 1mm that I'm currently getting.... 0.3 mm is not worth $2k!). Physical therapy on the ankle is going well, I'm walking a lot better and can wear sneakers now. However, I still have limited range of motion to point my foot down.

Job Search - Ugh! So many applications out, so little phone calls. The job I interviewed for is now being really vague on their timeline. So frustrated!

My Family - My grandfather's ashes were buried on Monday. His wishes were to be cremated and the ashes be buried. My mom told me not to fly home for the burial, since it was such a short service. My grandmother and mom have been really depressed lately, I'm not really sure what to do or say

H's Family - MIL is still undergoing weekly immunotherapy treatments for the bladder cancer. She has 2 more treatments, waits 6 weeks, and then another biopsy.

Other May Events - My Ph.D. ceremony is next weekend, I'll be nice to finally cross that stage! I'm also really excited to go to my favorite restaurant while we're back in Rochester that weekend!

kittenwine

Hey guys, Christina here!  I have been lurking for months, since TN messed up my old account.  I couldn't stay away from you guys, though and I missed participating in the conversations here so  I bit the bullet and joined again. Here are my updates for the month.

DH has had enough of his job, and after not getting hired at other companies he applied to, has decided to apply to University.  He did two years of his degree, but then transferred to college, which is how we met.  His parents had been pushing him for a little while to go back to school and even offered to pay for it PLUS supplement his income for the next 2 years.  They have a family trust fund set up, so the money they'd give us would be from that. He should hear back about his application in a couple weeks.

We are still NTNP, in terms of TTC.  It's been 1 year and 3 months, but I'm not giving up yet.  We both believe that we will get pregnant eventually and are trusting God totally. 

I started volunteering as a youth leader for my church's high school group.  The kids come from a rough area, have not been to church before, have bad family situations and generally just want someone to notice them.  It was a great experience and i'm looking forward to resuming my leadership once the fall comes (youth group breaks for summer).  

A young woman reached out to me to be a mentor for her as a new photographer.  She will be accompanying me to some weddings to see what it's like to be a professional.  I'm excited about that:)

consciousdear88

@kittenwine As soon as I saw the user handle, I had hoped it was you.

ramstein1027

woo hoo and welcome back @kittenwine!

kittenwine

consciousdear88!  I chose this name in hopes of that:)  Thanks @ramstein1027!

xxjen015

Welcome back @kittenwine !!! Every now and then I see your name pop up on FB and I'm like awww, I wish she were still on TN! Glad you're back!!  

PattySmith101

Yeah!!! Your back- I was wondering how you have been!

kittenwine

thanks for the welcome back, ladies!  I missed you all and was sad I couldn't respond to your posts, even though I was reading them daily.  

mrshall1027

Welcome back @kittenwine!  I've been wondering if you were going to make your way back here and glad you did!

Progress on the house is going good.  Looks like completion is still on track for end of October.  5 more months!!  I can not freaking wait!  We met with our builder on Wednesday to go over all the mechanical stuff (lighting, plumbing, electrical).  There is so much that goes into this, it's overwhelming at times.  We've started ordering our lighting which is somewhat painstaking.  Some fixtures are ridiculously expensive!  We've been trying to wait for sales and clearance deals to pop up, and so far we've gotten some good deals ($500 Four Hands chandelier for $80!!).

Here's progress from 5/6/15.  Framing should be done by Monday and they'll start roughing in plumbing and drying in the roof.  Once that's done, they'll start on electrical and putting in windows.  Our builder says that once the framing is done, the house looks completely different within a matter of days, so I'm exciting to see it in the next couple of weeks.

Our future wine room.  I'm more excited about this than I should be!

Aria is such a good baby and I'm beyond thankful for that!  It really hasn't been as hard as I thought it would be.  I hope I'm not jinxing myself by saying that...  I'm excited for my first Mother's Day as a real mom.  H always did something special for me anyway since I'm a stepmom, but it just feels different now.

kittenwine

thanks, @mrshall1027! Congrats on the house progress and Aria's birth!!

sjs1013

Yay you're back @kittenwine

consciousdear88

So, the big thing that is going on in my life for the month of May is the fact that our closing date on the house is set for May 29th. It's been a bit chaotic lately, but I'm honestly really excited about it. I think I'm just happy that I have something that I can do with however I want and not have to worry about checking with a landlord about fixing stuff.

I think the only hiccups we've been having were with the paperwork. I love that we are in a digital era where I can do all this sort of stuff online and not have to go sit in a bank office. However, we found so many spelling errors/incorrect things when they sent us the paperwork. It was annoying to have to go through and initial off that "No, this is not my phone number" or "No, I am not a full time student anymore."

I did try to attach a picture of the house, so hopefully that works.

I also kept a big promise to H. I told him once we'd get a house, I'd settle down, stop taking my BC, and kind of let whatever happens happens so to speak. Nothing yet (at least according to tests yesterday), but we'll see. It's been weird though because I'm so not used to undergoing a lot of these crazy monthly things anymore.

Another big thing that actually happened yesterday that I was a bit excited about was that I got to see my youngest sister leave for prom. I felt so old the entire time I was there with her. But, she looked amazing. She graduates next month. It is entirely too surreal. I remember her being born. I am not ready for her to basically be an adult. haha

ramstein1027

beautiful house & yard @consciousdear88!

consciousdear88

@ramstein1027 across from where I was taking the picture was an old barn too. That might come down though since it's older and a ton of squirrels are living in it.

I really underestimated how important yards are until after this weekend. We have new neighbors in the row of houses behind our rental and the mother of the little boy apologized for him playing in our yard. We honestly didn't care as long as his toys got picked up so we didn't accidentally hit them with the lawnmower. Apparently this was the first place they'd lived in with an actual backyard. :-(

Willy1020

I have a one year old. 

goatlady12

Things are crazy, DH's grandpa passed away on Friday. The funeral is this Friday. This will be the third funeral Ds will go to and he's only 5 months. On the bright side all of DH's family will be flying into town. It will be great to see everyone.
We're starting to feel the sting of only having one income right now. I get my nephew for daycare when my sister goes back to work next month. I'm not sure I want to get licensed the process keeps getting delayed and I'm sick of it! I think I'll just find a part time job.
Hoping things start looking up. The funny thing is, I'm happier than I was at my old job. That place made me miserable!

ramstein1027

Sorry for your loss @goatlady12

mana8503

I don't even know where to start.  Work SUCKS.  I'm trying to fit a full day of work, and pump and train my cw AND be trained.  I'm about to crack soon.  This is why I haven't been posting much. 

H and I... it's still rocky.  We can't seem to sync.  We had a blow out fight a week ago, but other than that it's more like a cold war.  Very "just moving through the motions".  I'm going to the beach with my mom, aunt and cousin tomorrow to Saturday.  Maybe some time away will help us.  I just feel like he's not happy with our life.  He's always wanting something more.  A motorcycle, a truck, another Jeep, and tractor trailer.  I'm just tired of saying no.  And I'm tired of the money Nazi.  Part of me wonders if he misses that adrenaline he had in the army. 

Biomom's divorce was finalized last Monday, and she got married Thursday.  Her 3rd army guy... they are moving in the summer to Georgia.  She FINALLY said she'll bring them up to NC when we come down, and she still plans on meeting us in VA to bring them up this summer.  I still think H needs a parenting agreement ASAP.  But I can't force him. 

CW moved back out after staying with us for 3 days.  Their wedding is still off, but they are trying to work on things.  I think she's twisted it around to make him feel guilty.  Like he was doing this and that and that made her go talk to this guy in FL.  I'm feel bad for him.  He's trying so hard to make it work.

I am walking most days at lunch, 2.5 miles.  It helps my mental well-being.  And my good guy friend/CW comes with me.  So it's nice. 

My sister is talking to my parents now.  Nothing is really settled, didn't want to ruin Mother's day.  But I'm sure they will talk it out soon.  Below is the article about her ex bf... the truck in the article was my dad's truck.  Will probably delete later. (link deleted)

My aunt is out of the hospital and in a nursing home for rehab.  I think they got a house for 6 months until they figure out what to do next. My other aunt is healing from gall bladder surgery and they will recheck the cyst in her kidney in 3 months.

I think that's it.

 

kittenwine

congrats on the house stuff, @consciousdear88!  I remember how excited we were when we bought ours.

@willy1020 how is possible that J is a year old already!?

I'm sorry for your loss @goatlady12.  And I'm also sorry your daycare application process is frustrating. It seemed like that was something you were really excited about so it sucks that it isn't working out as you had hoped.

hugs, @mana8503! You have a lot going on now and I hope that things look up for you and everyone in your life asap!

xxjen015

@mana8503 *hugs* sounds liked you're going through a lot. If you need anyone to talk to, I'm here!! I'll be sitting around on my a$$ starting next week! haha. and from the article -- illegally dumping meth waste? Is there a way to legally dump it?? 

@goatlady12 I'm so sorry for your and DH's loss. *hugs* It's always nice to get to see family, just sucks when it's under those circumstances. I'm sure everything will work out the way you want it to with the daycare or a part-time job. I'm glad you're happier, though!

@consciousdear88 congratulations on the house!!  

consciousdear88

@goatlady12 and @mana8503 hugs for you both.

mpjf1001

Sending hugs!

Willy1020

Hugs, ladies. 

brainybrunette

I just had a chance to read though many of these updates. Wow! So much is going on with so many of you. Hugs to so many of my Oct 2012 friends

xxjen015

Well latest news: surgery officially scheduled for next Thursday, May 21st. 

sjs1013

Hugs to you all!

goatlady12

I just got a call my uncle is at the hospital bleeding internally. He's had some serious health issues. They just had my dad sign a dnr because they are saying there is nothing they can do if the bleeding doesn't stop. He had never been in good health but he gave up on life when he fell down the stairs at my house while I was giving him the tour and broke 3 bones. I've carried guilt since it happened because like I said he just gave up. I knew logically there is nothing I could have done, but emotionally I feel partially responsible. I can't tell my family how I feel because they don't need to worry about some illogical feeling I'm having. But I needed to let that out so I'm telling you girls.
I love you all but it might be a while before I can get back on here.