October 2012 Weddings
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T & Ps please
My friend was pregnant with twins. Her water broke about 8 weeks early, a week and a half ago. She's been in the hospital and being monitored. Last weekend, she started to have contractions, but they still wanted to wait until next week for her c section. Her contractions got worse last Monday and they performed an emergency c section. One baby made it, one didn't.
I am so heartbroken for my friend. She was so excited and even upbeat about being on bedrest. Her and her husband don't want to talk to anyone right now, which is totally understandable. Her sister-in-law made calls to her friends because she couldn't bare to tell people about her loss.
I don't know what to do or say to them. How do you mourn one child and celebrate another? I am respecting them at this time and not contacting them, but I am praying for them constantly. Please do the same. I can't even imagine what they are feeling right now.
I am so heartbroken for my friend. She was so excited and even upbeat about being on bedrest. Her and her husband don't want to talk to anyone right now, which is totally understandable. Her sister-in-law made calls to her friends because she couldn't bare to tell people about her loss.
I don't know what to do or say to them. How do you mourn one child and celebrate another? I am respecting them at this time and not contacting them, but I am praying for them constantly. Please do the same. I can't even imagine what they are feeling right now.
Re: T & Ps please
I am praying for them.
I know that it is hard to know what to say to your friends, but your post reminded me of an essay that Sheryl Sandberg, whose husband died, (COO of SurveyMonkey), wrote which was about what she went through the first 30 days after his death.
She said, "Even a simple "How are you?"-almost always asked with the best of intentions-is better replaced with "How are you today?" When I am asked "How are you?" I stop myself from shouting, My husband died a month ago, how do you think I am? When I hear "How are you today?" I realize the person knows that the best I can do right now is to get through each day."
This just really stuck with me because I have been on both sides of the question and never thought that adding "today" could make so much of a difference.
I hope this helps a little on what to say to them.
Clicky to an article with the entire essay.
I can't stop thinking about them and what they are going through. I appreciate all of your thoughts and prayers and I will keep you updated on how they are doing. Another thing I realized, their babies share a birthday with another one of our friend's son.