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Must VENT about commandeered holidays!
Well, another Fourth of July and another fiasco. I just cannot take it any more, honestly. Every family gathering is completely ruined by my 20 year old niece who for years has treated our small family gatherings as the launching pad for whatever random people she currently calls her "friends." And I used that term loosely, since every year it seems like it is an entirely new set of strangers she's just thrown my door or my mom's door open to for the event. I am so sick of strangers intruding on our family gatherings ... it changes the entire dynamic. I don't know these people, I don't want to know these people. I get together with my family (or would like to) to simple catch up with THEM, not their entourage.
Anyone else feel this way? I'm thinking of moving far away, or just planning my vacations around every major holiday so I can stop even trying to pretend we have a family.
Re: Must VENT about commandeered holidays!
I'm torn on this because we are the house every feels comfortable bringing waifs and strays too, but I also get that you want family time.
She hauls these people in there on us and since she changes friends like most people change underwear it's never the same people, just whoever the new BFF of the month is ... they don't speak to any of us, just have their own party all by themselves somewhere in the house while the people who are SUPPOSED to be there feel like they are the ones who are out of place and have nowhere to "be." I was very clear with her in all of my communications with her that this was strictly family this time, but I guess just not clear enough.
Our family is small, so it's not like you could exclude her from a family event.
They're not thieves. They're annoying. They ignore the people who own the house on their way through the kitchen, to the bathroom, to the basement. It is like we are not even standing there. I'm just gonna start drinking to get through these dumb things. LOL!
She collected an eclectic bunch of people, to put it mildly. And she'd be furious if I was having a party and I did not include any of her bunch.
Why should you have to entertain people you don't even know? This isn't what a party is all about; you are not there to provide freebee entertainment to her and half the county that she brings along.
Yes, we are all fed up, but no one seems to be able to deal with her. It's like we can't believe she is this dumb. I feel sorry for my son, especially. The people she's bringing are the same people he and his friends avoid like the plague in the halls at school. So it's like your worst high school nightmare for him every gathering.
We all live within about 5 miles of each other. It's not like she waits for an engraved invite, more or less just blows in with her friends in tow! I'd love to lock the door ... that would be hilarious! It's just a hot mess. I UNLOADED on my brother over the phone when he called yammering on about bringing extra food for these people she was bringing. I just asked him in what universe is it o.k. to bring an entourage with you to something you've been invited to specifically? Should we all just start traveling to family parties with our personal posse in tow, since none of us actually want to speak to or spend time with each other? Of course, he may not be talking to me now, but at least he knows why we no longer host New Year's Eve! Ugh.
Thanks everybody for the support! I feel a lot better.