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Re: Need Advice!
And anybody who does theatre will tell you that you need not be "hot" for the person you are doing the scene with. All of this is acting. Count on it.
Hasn't your SO introduced you to any of the players/actors/cast, any of the stage crew, any of the personnel involved in the show??? I'm surprised--- he cannot go off and leave you on a shelf. He's in the wrong as far as that goes.
(Cast parties can get boring; when you've gone to one of them, you've gone to 'em all...I do theatre myself and that's how it is. Lots of times you want to beg off and skip the whole thing --- you make a cameo appearance for the cast's sake)
I remember when the RHPS was released as a movie --- wow, was that a big thing. There was this one movie theatre that used to do a midnight showing, every Friday, for about 4 years --- "Sorry NO CANDLES" was the big disclaimer that ran with the ad for the movie.
Fun celebrity tidbit. When Fred Astaire started acting in movies, he promised his wife he would never kiss an actress on-screen. He never did, but you would never guess it because there is a lot of "implied kissing" in his scenes. Like, he'll go in for a kiss, but the curtain falls or their faces are hidden by an object.
I agree with the other PPs. Everything you've described sounds perfectly innocent. But I think you should tell your SO how you've been feeling. Not in a complaining way, but more in a "can you ramp up the reassurances and love while I'm hormonal/be understanding if I have a crazy moment" way.
I respectfully disagree with most of what you said. To me, his behavior is that of a friendly and outgoing person. I think I also picked up that she is invited to go to the reunion also. And he isn't free to do what he wants. They are in a committed relationship. Granted, it is not the huge commitment that marriage is, but it is still an important commitment.
And the bolded is a huge and negative generalization of an entire gender. Just like most women wouldn't like the generalization of "you know women, they're all clingy and just want to get married and have babies", it's not fair to do to men either. Speaking of, you are assuming that he is the one who doesn't want to get married or that they haven't talked about it. Maybe neither one feels ready to get married. Maybe he's proposed multiple times and she is the one not ready.
You have a great deal less leverage if you are not married at least a few years and then start your family.
Suppose the 2 of you split up while you are unmarried and the kiddo is in the picture? He could take off and that could be gthe end of him --- never to be heard of again and now you have yourself and a child to support. Plus you don't know where he is; forget about child support from the father.
Suppose you break up and each of you goes your own way -- still unmarried --- and you can't get him to cough up child support, nor does he come see the child?
All of this could happen if you were married to him but the fact that you are unmarried and there's a kiddo on the way makes thins all the more rougher and different -- it 's adding stress and strain to the relationship.