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TTC/PCP Wednesday
Updates? Obsessions? Anything you care to share?
QOTD: In a dream world (where babies come easily and childcare is free) how many children would you have? Is this number different from how many you realistically forsee having?
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Re: TTC/PCP Wednesday
Eeeek - its starting to feel very, very real! Its nearly 2009 and that means its nearly baby making time. So, the past couple days have involved us, primarily me, obsessing over a good starting month.
We're cruising the first week of March (for which andrea would like to be able to enjoy some adult beverages)...anytime after that is a go. Conception in March, after we get back from the trip, means a christmas baby...conception in April means the due date would pretty much fall on BIL's wedding (which we absolutely can not miss), so that leaves us with starting in May? that seems so far....and of course we cant deny that statistics tell us we aren't likely to get pg on the first, or second, try. But, in the grand scheme a couple months really isnt much and gives us extra time to save $$. yup, these are the thoughts that swirl in my head.
Other updates are:
1) A started taking prenatals and they dont make her sick (yay!)
2) I put a call into the RE's office, hoping regardless of start date we'll have our initial appointment in late feb
3) Second week of January we begin foster parent certification
QOTD: in a perfect world, I would love 3 kids, or maybe 4. 2-3 bio children and 1-2 foster/adopted. Realistically, Andrea's pushing hard for 1 bio and max 1 or 2 foster. Of course this may all change as our TTC process develops and life changes....but the thought of witnessing and being a part of only 1 pregnancy makes me kinda sad. I'll just have to sit back and see how life unfolds!
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I'm in the 2ww (10dpo? ish?), but its been easier this month then the past two. Its hard to explain, but this month just feels different. I was so distracted for the first half... between lots of work stuff and the holidays... that I felt half like time was flying, but half like it had been months since my last cycle. O-time came upon me so suddenly and I didn't get good signs this month, so I'm really not sure about our timing at all.
I figure I'll test Sunday (14dpo-ish) if there seem to be any positive signs, or my period is no where in sight. If it does seem like my period is on its way I'll just wait for it to show. I guess that fact that this month feels so different should seem like a positive thing... but honestly I'm not very hopeful or optimistic for this month. Of course, I'd love to be proven wrong!!!
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
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Opps, forgot the QOTD.
In a perfect world I would want 2 bio... then when they are older, I would want to adopt 1 - 2. We'll definitely have the 2 bio, but it just depends on life/finances/etc whether we adopt later on or not.
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
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we've had lots of stuff going on recently. the short version is that everything in there looks great (perfectly shaped, no blockages, etc) and we're two days into the tww. we've switched up donors for this go, which i like because our backup was actually my first choice. he also gave us higher numbers. i just want this try to work.
qotd: ideally i'd like 2-3, and c would like 2. we've talked a little about what we would do if she were to get pregnant with twins. we'd have to seriously consider our options and whether i would carry another or if we would be done. i think i'd be more likely than her to want to try again. if she has more than two we're done, period.
Elise - I too am being hit by - It's 2009, and this is the year! Our start month isn't definite, but just the start of the year makes it al feel very close!
QOTD: We daydream about 3 - we both love the idea of 3. But realistically, I'm not sure I'll be able to handle 3 (since I am our childcare) and be the laid-back mom I want to be(!), and I think budget-wise, 2 is a more realistic # for us so that we won't have to sacrifice on the amount of travel we want to do as a family. Who knows what life will bring, but I think 2 will be most likely for us. There's a great video about this topic at one of my new favorite websites - Momversation. You can see it here
I am starting to get back into the mode of thinking about TTC more. Our budgeting plans are aligning (so far!), so there doesn't seem to be any reason that our planned start of late summer won't happen. My nanny job has really gotten me into mom-mode, and I am feeling more and more ready. I find myself thinking more and more about the realities - We could be pregnant by next Xmas, etc, etc.
I'm so glad that many of you here are/will be trying this year so we can all go through these ups and downs together!
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
We had our exam and consult this week. It was so exciting and went really well. For some reason they told us they didn't think it would take us too long to get pregnant, I'm not sure if they say this to everyone but i am keeping my fingers crossed that they are right! We are now trying to decide on a donor. What a process this is! We have found one we really like but he hasn't got anyone pregnant yet. It looks like he is fairly new to the program (less than a year). Anyone else use a donor who had no pregnancies or any thoughts on this?
We would like two kids but in a dream world we would want more, maybe 4?
We are getting ready to switch to my body this year. I happy S will have a break and excited to step up to bat.
We have an appt with our new RE coming up and a foster care orientation next week. I am really ready for some happy news this year.
QOTD-In a perfect world I would have a lot of children. Not Duggars a lot, but maybe 6. If we each get pregnant with a singleton that will be it, if one of us has multiples we will keep going. We are all about fair over here, everyone gets a chance :-)
our first donor had no pregnancies when we decided on him, but he has had one reported now. our second donor (the one we're using this time) also had none. we specifically asked our re about that, and he said it wasn't something to worry about--especially if they haven't been in the system long, which was also the case with both of ours. the bank told us that, while our re's office is really good about reporting pregnancies to the bank, doctors' offices aren't always so conscientious or timely about it. i say if you really like him don't worry about that, but you might want to consider having a back up choice in case you don't have luck right away and decided to switch. that's what we did before we even started, and it made the switch this time so much easier and less stressful.
Today I bought our sperm. 12 vials of our "perfect" donor are now in storage for us until we're ready to use up (and for 5 years total.) This is a huge step that we've been budgeting, saving and planning for awhile now. It's amazing to know that we have "the goods" and now we just need to sit tight until more PCP stuff gets checked off and time goes by. 2009 is the year for us to start, but due to school timelines and our plans to (hopefully) move in 2009, it won't be until fall. I'm actually really okay with that, and working with birth and babies definitely helps.
AOTD: In a dream world (where babies come easily and childcare is free, or where I could stay home with them all and not worry about income) I would want about 4-5 children, 2-3 bio and 2 adopted from foster care. More likely it will be 2 bio and then a break of about 3-7 years and then fostering (most likely without the intention of adopting, which will perhaps mean more kids over the course of time, but they would return to their families or different forever homes.) We'll have see how it goes.
We are getting closer and closer to our April start date, and are both really excited about that. The other day, Sylvia casually referred to the room that is currently our home office as "the baby's room"-- you should have seen my jaw hit the floor, lol!
The only thing I really worry about is how Sylvia's daughter will take it if/when I get pregnant. She has already said things implying that she is worried we are trying to "replace" her or "try again" because she feels like she's a bad kid. We do our best to reassure her, but sometimes it's hard to know what to say. I want to do right by her, of course, but I don't know if we should/can postpone our plans. I'll be 32 this summer and we really don't want to wait too much longer (especially S, who worries about how old she'll be when the kid/s graduate HS).
QOTD: I think in a dream world I'd probably want to have 3 more kids (so 4 kids total in our family). More realistic is that we'd have 2 more (that's our current plan/goal, but we'll play it by ear after the 1st one). All that said, I'll be totally happy if we only are blessed with 1 more!
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
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It must be so hard to hear her say things like that. I feel like you've mentioned her age before, but I can't remember... It might be helpful to let her now how excited you both are for your future baby to have her as an older sister. Reminding her that this baby isn't just yours & Silvia's child, but her sibling as well could help her feel more like she's part of the process than being replaced. All of my (half) siblings are at least 9.5yrs my junior, and as kid I remember being excited about being the big sister more than anything else.
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
we are on 6dpiui of our 3rd try. For the most part we have been busy with the holidays and not stressing about it. Things looked really good at the iui and I felt ovulation pains as we walked out to the parking lot after the iui so hopefully we had great timing! I am so glad to hear that we will have so many people trying in 2009 we will have quite a play group forming won't we!
As for the question of the week I think we will try to have 2 (one pregnancy for both of us). If I get preggers first and have twins then I think we will be done. I would love to have more but we can't afford it. Although I learned this week never to make plans for that my friend just announced she is pregnant with triplets (she has a 18 mo) god I don't envy that! 4 kids 2 and under! I am pretty sure these were spontanious too! She is identical twin so that may be why.
Things are moving along for us. I have my big u/s on Tuesday so that will be good. We already know what we are having but are waiting until then to tell just to be sure.
I would have said I would have liked 2 -3 , but after this pregnancy there will be no more. To be honest... I have hated being pg so far. I have been sick the whole time and I am exhausted. I have lost over 15 pounds because I can't keep anything in still. I am really just ready for May to be here and for it to be over.
~Kennedy
We might be pushing back TTC till 2010 due to C's new job...more on that another day
I'd love 4-5...but realistically, 2-3.
Sorry I haven't been posting much. I'm turning into such a lurker.
It's so exciting hearing about everyone's plans!
I'm in my tww for the first time in five months. Not much hope, but it's surprisingly wonderful to be trying again. I think not trying is as awful as trying unsuccessfully.
I have been working on our baby registry at findgift dot com. Not necessarily to make public for gifts or anything, but just a way for me to remember where I found everything I love. Last night I picked out the rug and curtains for the nursery and when I went into our guest room (nursery) today, I got so choked up imagining all my ideas coming to life and actually sitting in there, rocking my baby.
I was raised to believe that the world is overpopulated and that we shouldn't have more babies than what would replace us. i.e. a single person parenting would only have one child or a couple would only produce two children total. I realize this is controversial and pretty sad, but I'll probably follow it. Angi and I could have our two kids and then adopt/foster more in the future. However, if overpopulation, money, time, etc. were no issue, I sincerely know that I would have as many children as I could. Not to sound like I read OK mag or TMZ, but so many people give Brad and Angelina a hard time for having so many kids. But I completely understand it. If I was given a hundred million dollars tomorrow, the first thing I'd do would be to adopt and ttc vigorously. It's mostly time, help, and money that stops most of us now.?
Good luck everyone. ?
We are planning on TTC in 2016... I know... its a ways away. But we are young (20 and 21), and my partner identifies male (FtM) so we want to allow him to fully transition which costs quite a bit, as well as have very very stable careers, and own a home with a bit of land.
The goal is to have our wedding on out 10 year anniversary, 12-13-16, and hopefully be 4 months or less pregnant... we are going to TTC June of 2016.
The plan is one pregnancy every 3 years (2016, 2019, 2022, 2025) and then start the adoption process in 2026. Realistically I would like to foster children and adopt that way.
If everything was free? I would love to have 12 children, realistically we have scaled it down to 4 pregnancies and 4 adoptions... including a little boy with down syndrome, 2 little girls from china, and a little boy with autism.
Plans change though, life may change, reguardless we both agree that we want a large family and want to be stable in every possible way before hand.
-Jessica and Ethan