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Well Julie has two BFF's Sarah and Jennifer. They were both her bridesmaids. Sarah has recently gotten engaged, and just asked Jennifer to be her bridesmaid. Sarah has yet to ask Julie. I know that it's not typically I pick you, then you pick me, but Julie is really really really worried that she won't be asked. Her and Sarah are ridiculously close, (or so she thought).
However, Julie has been really upset about Sarah not asking her, (tears literaly) what do I do? What should Julie do? This sounds really lame I know, but Jennifer was only asked last night, and the weddings not until June. There is pleanty of time for Sarah to ask right?
I just feel soooooooooooooooooooooooooo bad for Julie because she loves Sarah and Ali to death and was really counting on this. Blah.
Re: Blah, long.
I have no idea what Sarah's situation is, but I know there were people who would have liked and might have expected to be in our wedding that weren't asked to be in the bridal party. We each only had 3 attendants and I asked my sister and my two oldest friends (one I met in 1st grade, one in 9th grade). I had very close friends from college and working, people I saw and talked to more often than my old friends (both of whom lived 1000+ miles away from me at the time). But it was really important to me that my old friends be in my wedding b/c we'd been friends for such a long time and had been through a lot together. I could have easily had a wedding party of 6 or 7 people but Jen's sisters refused to take any part in the wedding (except attending), and she didn't have as many close friends at the time and so the size of her party limited the size of my party.
I felt really bad about not asking a couple of my newer friends - especially my friend Joanna. We worked together and Jen and I spent almost every weekend hanging out with her and her girlfriend. (I was just in her wedding last October - we are still close.) She never asked me about it or it or let on that she was disappointed, and I really, really appreciated that. It made me feel even closer to her and value our friendship even more. She was just a rock through the whole wedding planning process - b/c she lived in the same city as me, she did a lot of the things you'd usually do with BMs as far as appointments, helping us choose things for the wedding, advising us, etc.?
I'm not sure what to tell you about Julie. It seems like it is entirely possible that she will still be asked - maybe Sarah is going to take her out to dinner and ask her soon, or maybe she only had one spot left and had to choose one of the girls and will have a conversation with Julie about it at some point to explain. Even if they never talk about it, I hope Julie doesn't let it create hard feelings between them. Weddings are supposed to be about love and celebration, and it just stinks for all involved when it turns a sweet friendship into a feud. I feel so lucky that my friends were cool about it and I can't imagine that Sarah would feel any differently.?