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babysitting situation...thoughts?
I have a family baby shower this Saturday for my cousin. It's women only. At the same time as this event, my H has a contractor coming to our house to repair some damage caused by recent flooding. (alongside a rep from our HOA) Considering he might be answering or addressing major issues with these folks, makes me question whether I should leave our daughter home with him. She's needy and requires lots of work!
Well, someone in the family told me I couldn't take my daughter to the babyshower. Said, "not a good idea". All of my sitters, who I am comfortable asking to sit, are going to be at the shower. No sitter option available.
So...wtf do I do? Not go? Take her anyways?
Re: babysitting situation...thoughts?
If you don't have any other options, I would say take her anyway. I'm sure your cousin would rather you be there then miss it. Plus it's for a baby shower, not a bridal shower.
Honestly, I don't think babies belong at any showers (wedding or baby). Invariably, the focus becomes on the baby and not on the guest of honor. At the least, the mother of the child is distracted. Children can not be expected to behave through what is an adult function.
Of course, there are events where everyone is welcome - but if this is not clearly stated, leave the child at home.
Agreed. I don't take my kids to baby showers unless it's a family shower or clearly stated on the invite. Most of the time I have a sitter for our kids, this is the one rare exception when I don't. And normally I would pass on the event but this is my cousin, I'd hate to miss her shower.
how much time do you think your DH will need with these people? is it an option that you bring Ella for part of the time and then he can pick her up?
as an aside, when it comes to our family functions, there are just too many kids to NOT consider them. now i'm talking about my & dh's siblings & close cousins. that's just us and i understand everyone is different. i just don't understand if your typical babysitters are going to be at the shower too, how else do they expect you to get help. yes, there's your DH but in this case, he's busy too. sorry for the soapbox, i'm still for taking ella to the party for at least as long as necessary.
Mia- that's my point! I have NO sitters. I have my in-law's, which I can count on in emergency situations like this- BUT- they were ALSO invited to this shower. I guess they are going too. Lol...whatever.
I may just have to do a hang out for 30 minutes and then run out. It's my only choice as of right now. Leaving Ella with my H is not an option. We've been battling our HOA for 6 years so this is a majority priority.
are you serious? ?she was SPECIFICALLY told not to bring the baby. ?that just isn't right.
i don't really see a problem with leaving her home with your H, but how does he feel about it? ?he should be able to tell you if he's comfortable with it. ?i know mine would be.?
I think most people who bring an uninvited child to an event have some kind of childcare issue. But that doesn't make it ok. One of the things you face when you have kids is missing some events due to childcare.
The thing is - the event is not about you - it is about the guest of honor. You will surely be missed but bringing a kid is not ok.
I think the solution would be to arrive at the very beginning of the shower with your child and your gift. Give big hugs and kisses to the host and mommy-to-be, say how gorgeous everything is and then leave. Of course they will say "OH no DON'T leave!" but they don't mean it. So be firm and say "I wouldn't dream of interrupting your special day".
And then take the mommy-to-be out to dinner next week.