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In Law vent!!! Really long
I usually get along fairly well with my ILs but something they did has been bugging me for the last 6 weeks and I'm about to explode because of it.
ILs come to visit us right after Thanksgiving. Rhian and Reese both caught a tummy virus the day before they were to show up and we called them to let them know and give them the option of skipping the visit in case they didn't want to be exposed.
They decided to go ahead with the visit and take their chances. They stayed for 3 days before heading back home to CA. Both MIL and FIL came down with nasty colds within a day or so of getting back home. They are older and not in great health and were so sick that they were almost hospitalized. We're very thankful that they both are feeling much better now and avoided a hospital stay.
Turns out though that they went home and told everyone that my kids got them so sick. BIL called dh and was really rude about how inconsiderate it was to expose his parents like that and kept on for 2 weeks trying to make him feel bad about how sick they were. HELLO! My kids didn't even have colds and we gave them the option to not come since the girls weren't feeling well!!!
So now the ILs are planning to visit again next week. The girls woke up yesterday with runny noses and were both up all night with a croup-like cough. I called MIL this morning and told her that I wasn't sure that a visit was a good idea right now as I don't want them to get sick again but they still want to come. I'm at my wits end because I've been hearing about how it was all my girls fault that they were sick when it wasn't and here they want to come get exposed to even more germs! I'm done...I told dh that he has to call her and let her know that they are absolutely not coming over if the girls still have any hint of illness on Monday.
Re: In Law vent!!! Really long
how frustrating for you!
I think unless you have them stay at the local suite hotel, you're looking at a very annoying de ja vu.
yah, I'm with you on this one...if the girls aren't better by Monday, then the ILs should definitely wait until everyone is in good health before visiting again. You can't change their reaction(or what kind of stories they spread), but you can change your actions and reactions and I think you're in the right here. Just tell them you think it's in their best interest to wait until the girls are better.
I hate when people blame others for their own behavior. It's not just about how they blamed your girls for getting them sick, but the fact that they got sick at all. They should want to stay away for their own good health and maybe wait til cold/flu season passes. Of all my IL gripes, there is a mutual respect and understanding about staying away while sick(them, Allison, or us). My ILs are not in the best of health either.
that's very frustrating! and that's terrible that they told BIL and others that your girls got them sick, plus BIL tried making your DH feel guilty.
imho, i'd tell dh to tell them no. end of story, but i'm a drama queen like that.