how do you fire your REA?

futuremrscohick

Ours is just not doing the trick.  I felt she was being kind of pushy with one house that we were going to put an offer in on, and then when it turned out there was structural damage and we didn't put an offer in on it, she seemed a little annoyed.  I don't like feeling pushed around, and I just dread going out with her to look at houses.

 So... how do you fire your REA without hurting her feelings?  We've already found someone we like  alot better -- she's honest, not pushy, and does all the work for me (unlike the one we're trying to get rid of).  We never signed anything with our current REA, so it is not like there's anything legally binding us to use her.  I just hate hurting people's feelings.

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Maybe tell her you're taking a break from looking...and just "forget" to call her back?  I know it doesn't sound honest, but this is probably the largest purchase you will ever make, and you don't want to get screwed (for lack of a better term).  You need someone who trustworthy...once you found out about the structural damage, she should have been apologetic for even showing you that house without reading the seller's disclosure.

Good luck!

bridz2be

I agree, tell her you are taking a break and then don't contact her. Trusting your realtor agent is huge and there is no way I'd buy a house without 110% confidence in everyone I was working with. The fact that she seemed annoyed definitely shows she's bummed she didn't get the deal made, vs. having your best interest in mind. Get away!

jjenkins

Ditto Joren...I actually did that to a realtor while we were looking   The guy was really nice but a little too overzealous for me.  I was very specific when discussing with him what I was looking for and the area I wanted and he kept sending me listings that were the complete opposite.  I finally told him that we decided to take a break and wait because we weren't seeing anything on the market that we really liked.  It wasn't completely untrue because we did take a break but I still felt really bad about it.  It the realtor's job to help you and make you feel as comfortable as possible about your decision especially since it's a huge investment/purchase.

fxz109

As hard as it may be for you, I'd try to be straght up with her.  Her livelyhood/job depends on people liking her work, and if there are things that she should be doing to improve, if she's a professional, she should take your input and put it to good use for herself.  And if she takes it the wrong way - the heck with her and she deserves what she gets (or doesn't get.)

MrsJKH610

We kind of got roped into ours by going to a seminar (we were naive first time homebuyers) we signed something, which I heard not many people have ever had to do. We waited until that time was up. We said we were going to take another break and about a few weeks later we started working with a family friend that we should have called in the first place. I say just say we decided to take a break and that we will call you if we are ready again. Then slip on over to that new realtor. It's totally your choice on who you work with. I totally understand your situation!

Me&Mr.T

Honestly, be straight up with her.

Did you sign a contract with her when you started? If you did you need to get out of it because if you don't then she will be entitled to some of the commission for not doing anything. We had this situation and had to have the REA that we stopped working with send us a letter relinquishing us of our contract (he was the first person we worked with and we didn't realize he would make us sign anything right away). We stopped working with him because we wanted to look soley in York county and he only handled Lancaster.

 GL!

futuremrscohick

Thanks, ladies.  I did send her an email telling her that DH and I decided we should part ways with her as we're not seeing anything on the market that suits us.  She was very short on the reply.

There was such a personality clash with us, and I just had the sneaking feeling in my gut that all she cared about was how much $ she could make off us.  She tried to talk us out of offering less for the house, knowing full well they would take the deal.  I'm just glad I  had the cajones to do it finally!  I've been feeling like this for a few weeks now!  When my friend went to look at the house we loved and found all that, I was soooooooo pissed!  I couldn't believe that she wouldn't notice that! 

This new one was looking at pictures online with me over the phone last night and was like "uh, no, this one is waaaayyyy too small if you want a family... this kitchen needs too much work, etc, etc."  it was a breath of fresh air to have some honesty!

Thanks for your advice ladies   I knew I could count on you!

lindyanne

Just thank her for her time and tell her that you don't think she is the right fit for you.  If she pushes on why, be honest.

Either that or lie and say you're putting your house search on hold for awhile.  

If you need a realtor rec, let me know.