My father is gay and...

sharonpaigehellman

his partner has been a major part of my life ever since I was around three.  I think of him as a father, but I have struggled with what to call him, I have just called him Frank for years.  If anyone has any suggestions on this and...I want Frank to have a part in my wedding, but I can't really seem to think of anything, would t be appropriate to have him walk me down the aisle?  Second daddies and anyone else with advice, please post!

leapgirl8

I think if you wanted to have both of them walk you down the aisle, one on each side, that would be adorable, and a great way to acknowledge that he helped raise you and is part of your family. If you don't want to do that, you could have him do a reading or give a toast at the reception.?

Two*True

You can absolutely have Frank walk you down the aisle!  I'm sure he'd be honored to have the same 'role' as your father. 

As for what to call him, Frank seems perfectly fine.  If it's what you've always called him then why try to change it.  If you want to express to him that he is more of a father than person you can express that when you ask him to walk you down the aisle...like "I hope my two dads will give me away."  Or....you could see if "pops" fits him.  My FIL is called Pops in his family (instead of dad). idk...hths!!

Duchess1

I think it's so nice that you have such a great relationship with him! The PP's had great advice, having both of them walk you down the aisle would be really special. I am sure he would be honored.

Good luck and congratulations!

Mrs._F

PPs had great suggestions.  It would be great to have Frank and your dad walk you down the aisle, or to include Frank in another special way (like doing a reading, giving a toast, or having a dance with him, etc).

ctbride08

you've got great advice, but i just wanted to say congrats on your upcoming wedding! I"m sure it will be beautiful and special to all involved

TouchieLori

Have both of them walk you down the aisle.  Nothing wrong with that.

bluedaisyus

congratulations!

figuring out what to call someone can be tough. i called my stepfather by his first name for years, but gradually started calling him dad. my bio father is out of the picture, though, so it's a much different scenario. it's a lot harder when you already have someone who is dad. pop or papa might be a good option, as one pp suggested.

as far as including him, you could definitely have him walk you down the aisle, or sak both frank and your father to do it together. i really like the idea of asking him to do a reading or something like that. you can also include both of them in your father-daughter dance, if you're doing one. start dancing with your father, then invite frank up to join you or take a turn. you could also have a special dance just with him.

mikenwillie

i think that they both should walk ya down the aisle  i think that  if hes been in your life a long time  that  he thinks of you as his own .  as a gay man with a wonderful in-laws  me and my man are  gitting married and i going to think of something special  to do for my mother and father in-law . they have been in my life for 8 years and they treat me like im there own . 

i have never in my life been treated so well and if  u think that he would be  happy with  oding  what you want . then u do it  go with whats  your heart tells ya  and what you want to do .  no matter what your father is your father but hes can be your daddy too .  and no matter what your age  you always have a daddy . lol

mike ( my boyfriend ) his father is  great i like him and i want to  make sure he is treated  good by me cause  i grew up with out a  father .  so he has shown  me what  a father is like .  so over all ..

do what u want  and what your heart tells ya .  there is nothing wrong with both them walking you down . and show them both the same  love