I'm so worried for my friend!

Lisa Figueroa

One of my close friends has started dating people off of the internet. Recently started talking with some guy from Texas that claims to be a physicians assistant and very well off. Next month she's flying to Texas, on her dime, staying at his house and considering the idea of not coming back? He wants her to stay??? btw- this guy is always on the computer, his blackberry and cellphone. (not your average busy dr!)

She sent me some pictures of this guy and I'm horrified. First of all, he's wearing scrubs but also sporting 2 big diamonds in his ears? He's also got some rather interesting facial hair, similar to R.Kelly and he's standing by a sign that says, "ER". It screams of someone trying to play a role vs. actually being a dr???  Well maybe he is a dr, I don't know....but neither does she!

When I told her that I was worried, she said I was paranoid. That girls do this all the time and I should consider myself lucky for finding love so early in life. Huh? I can't shake it, I'm scared for her! I feel like this is going to end really badly....and I hate the idea of pretending to support this, when I sooooo don't:(

 

mae1772

What you feel is completely normal. With the horror stories we've heard of cases ending badly its scary. I do hope and pray that your friend will reconsider and maybe have the guy come here instead. I've met alot of people off the net-luckily nothing bad has happened because I always had my friends to back me up just in case. Don't pretend about your feelings. Stay true and you are just sharing your feelings about the situation because you are a true friend.?

KaliChick

I'd be worried too!!! Does she know anyone in Texas?  Might you suggest a hotel room instead of his house?  I know a lot of these things end ok, but this one does scare me.  Has he told her what hospital he works at (so you could call and find out if he actuall does)??? Make sure she leaves all sorts of contact information (including his address, phone numbers, his full name, hospital/doctors office he works at) so that if something happens they know where she is.  I realize he could lie about all of that but at least it's a start.

I'd be very scared too. 

tmp-360158

Is he saying he's a doctor or a physician's assistant?  I'm not sure how much a PA makes, but not nearly as much as a doctor would I don't think.  Sounds sketchy to me.  Anyway you can get his full name and do a bit of searching on your own?  I hope he's on the up & up, but it sure sounds scary to me too!

Lisa Figueroa

jnt- per my friend he's a p.a. but he has his own patients? Interesting since he supposedly works in an ER?

Jenn09/04

I'd be worried too! There are just too many bad things that could happen in a situation like this.

I'm not so sure about the PA thing though. When I've had to go into urgent care for after hour problems, I'm always seen by a PA. There's only been a couple of times that a Dr has come in after being seen by the PA. Even our peds office has a PA that can be seen for ear infections and other seemingly minor issues. We even saw a PA at the ER when Rhian cracked her head open and needed stitches. So I would think that he could possibly be telling the truth about that, but it still wouldn't make me comfortable about the situation with your friend.

Fenella

I'd be scared too. Has she checked him out, like called the hospital where he works to see if he actually works there? Yikes, it sounds a little fishy. My old roommate kept meeting random people off the net. She invited some guy from another state to stay with us! I left the weekend he was there, but was worried about my stuff, and if I'd find my roommate murdered in our place! Maybe a little over paranoid, but still...