Just dropping in for quick question for you wonderful ladies...

CareBear01

Sorry, if this sounds ignorant.  I want to do the "right" thing:

When inviting people to an "all girls" (aka - no spouses) baby shower, and there is a girl cousin who has a partner, do you invite the partner, too b/c she is a girl, or do you not invite her b/c she is a "spouse"?

TIA!

ctbride08

I'd invite her - my wife and I are always invited to showers together and I'd definitley find it wierd if she was invited without me or vice versa. 

cookiemonster03

My wife's been invited to showers etc with me. She'd rather not but I guess the family figures 'all girls'!

2brides

If my partner isn't friends with the celebrant, she doesn't always get invited. If we are both close to the person then we do.

bluedaisyus

i think it depends on what your relationship with them is. my wife and i get invited to the same things for our friends and immediate family, but i wouldn't expect either of us to be invited to something for the other's coworkers or myself for her extended family. i know there's been at least one instance of something like that happening, although i can't remember the details of the situation now. obviously i wasn't too offended by it!

i don't think you need to feel obligated to invite both if you're not close to the cousin and her partner, but if you're debating it would be a nice gesture--and a statement that you view her as part of the family in her own right.

Two*True

I ditto pps.  If my partner doesn't know the person she doesn't expect an invite just because it's "all girls".  However if we're both friends with the person, then yes normally we are both invited. 

ssg73

I agree with pp.  I think the easiest way would be to call the cousin and ask or call your aunt.  I am often invited to things where I am the only spouse and it is totally fine.  I was invited to my wife's cousin's baby shower and I was the only spouse and was glad to be there.  It is always nice to be included.

mandykatie

Yeah, I agree with everyone else- invite her.  If it's not her thing, then she'll decline.  The way I think about it is that it's better to be inclusive than exclusive. Somebody else on this board said this once, and I really liked it:  sometimes a lesbian is just a girl. Thanks for being so thoughtful!

Duchess1

It's really nice that you asked :-) We have had it work both ways. If we both know the person we both get invited. If it's a work thing, usually just one of us gets invited. We once had someone we both know only invite me as the "girl" and it was really awkward. When in doubt, invite both.