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how do you feel about the word...
homosexual?
i hate it. makes my skin crawl. i feel bad when unknowing people (always straight) use it in conversation and i make a face. maybe its the fact that the word was in the DSM to describe the mental disorder of being attracted to someone of the same sex? i dont know..it seems archaic and derogatory to me...am i alone?
feel free to tell me i'm being overly sensitive and crazy.
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Re: how do you feel about the word...
I agree. It sounds very 1950s to me - and very clinical.
I don't have such strong feelings about lesbian - but I don't describe myself that way (I use gay in the rare occurance I have to self identify.)
i knew this about you and always meant to ask...is there a specific reason you hate lesbian? just curious.
i'm with 2brides...i try to avoid identifying if at all possible but when necessary i'll use lesbian although i cant say thats completely accurate
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Well like you I don't really identify when necessary. I just say "my wife" and then most people get it. But if I really need to, I'll use gay over lesbian. In my head I have negative images of lesbians - mullets, big girls, uncool...not the sexy L Word type. Intellectually I know that stereotypes are wrong but these just stick with me. And if I'm being 100% honest I loved my next boyfriends. I love men too. K doesn't believe in the term 'bi-sexual' but that's the label I probably fit best. But I've never used it. I dated men, I dated women. I fell in love with K. End of story. If I ever have to date again (god forbid something happens to K), will I date both sexes? I don't know. Maybe. I don't think I was born one way or another, I prefer to believe I was born to love a soul. And her soul happens to fit mine best. Okay...back to the point...lesbian just seems really defined and I'm not. Unlike my wife I've never had to wear a label. Yes, white and straight, were given to me, but I didn't know I was wearing them. Wearing a label feels different. So I'd rather not have something as constrictive as lesbian....that and when I hear it I think I need to go buy flannel
I hate labels in general. I don't think it's necessary to give us a label. Not like they have to go around saying..I'm a heterosexual all the time. I'm just a woman...Sandy is just a woman and we love each other and there is no need to give us any other label aside from..."Happy"!
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Like some said above, I don't like it because it is mostly used in a negative way. I also associate it with the DSM. I remember not long ago reading something about whether or not this word has become a derogatory term....like a newspaper got in trouble for using it or something - of course, I can't for the life of me remember where! "Homo," though, when used in the community, is a word I like, mostly for comedic value - totally unacceptable when used as slur, of course, but among friends: fun.
However, I am a big fan of the word lesbian. That is how I identify (though, I do use the word gay very often as well and think of the two words as mostly interchangeable). To me it is a sexual, political and historic identity that I feel very attached to, even if I dated a man (thinking of ct's more recent post), I would still identify as a lesbian.
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I don't like the word "homosexual". Mostly because I feel it emphasizes the "sexual" aspect of being same-sex-oriented.
I don't mind "lesbian", though.
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Well, it was designed to describe a mental "perversion", so I'm not a big fan. The etymology is completely clean and scientific, though, and I rarely hear anyone using it badly. I've almost exclusively heard it in a more scientific context. It may have been designed to call someone abnormal, but what it breaks down into is literally describing someone attracted to the same sex, and there's little wrong there.
Personally, I'm not a fan, but I don't take offense unless it's intended that way, or even react much to it as an adjective. Oh, man, I get the worst willies when it's used as a noun outside science, though. Brrrrr. It doesn't come up as much for me, being bi.