lose the shoes?

PineBow

Discussion came up at work...

 

I say common courtesy to take your shoes off when entering someone?s home ? Maybe I am wrong as people here totally disagreed.

 

I guess it depends where and how you were raised.

 

Do you wish for people to take off their shoes when entering your home?   And do you lose the shoes when entering someone else?s home?

Jewelz416

We don't wear shoes in our home. I think it's kinda disrespectful to be wearing dirty shoes around someone else's home but I agree with you that I think it does depend how you were raised. If people see the owner's shoes off in their own home, then I think they should get the point that they shouldn't be wearing their shoes either! I do lose my shoes when I enter someone else's home, I'm so used to it, and it's just way more confortable.

billysgirl07

It depends.  If it is someone whose house I have never (or if I forget if they wear shoes in the home or not) been to before I will take off my shoes.  If they tell me not to worry about it, I keep them on. 

pookielove

I don't take my shoes off unless I'm asked to or if I happen to notice that everyone else isn't wearing them. I hate not having shoes on.  My feet are always cold.  In my house, I'm always wearing shoes, so I'm not about to ask a guest to take theirs off. 

MillersXing

99% of people's houses I've been to wear shoes inside their house. But if I walk in and see shoes by the door, or I'm asked, I'll take them off.

Taking my shoes off in a place I've never been implies a familiarity I'm not comfortable with. Like I'm going to kick back, lounge, see what's in the fridge, and stay awhile. I also hate going into unfamiliar bathrooms or other people's kitchens sans foot attire. 

roboat93

it depends on the situation...when i was growing up, we didn't wear shoes in our house, but we never asked guests to take theirs off---even if they were regular guests because it feels uncomfortable for some people.  as far as i'm concerned, i have to vacuum twice a week anyway because of the dog so it's all the same.  i do not wear shoes in my house, but i always let it up to guests.  i sort of think it's rude to ask someone to take off their shoes (reminds me of the sex and the city episode where carrie loses her shoes at a baby shower and they never reappear....)

jjenkins

DH and I usually change out of our shoes and into our Ugg slippers as soon as were home so we dont wear shoes in our house.  In other people's homes I usually follow the lead of the host/hostess depending on the reason for the gathering.  If its casual then I will usually take my shoes off but if its something like a dressier party or dinner party then many times I just keep my shoes on (unless the host specifically asks that shoes be taken off).

Brooke&Ryan

DH and I always take our shoes off in our house but when I was growing up my family would leave them on. When people come over they usually take their shoes off because they see us without them on, but I never ask them to (unless its wet out). When I go to someone elses house I'll usually ask if they want me to take my shoes off.

Charlene&Steven

At home we're usually in slippers, but never ask that guests take their shoes off unless of course they come walking in with muddy or snowy shoes, but in that case I'd hope our guests take upon themselves to remove them - to me that's just common sense.  And vice versa, if I were entering someone's home with yucky, dirty shoes I'd definitely remove them without being asked.  Otherwise we just follow their lead or ask their preference, if they don't care either way we usually keep our shoes on depending on the event/reason for our visit.  If we're hanging out for the night and plan to be there for a while, we'll get comfy and kick off our shoes  

TheLinkBride

In our own house, we don't wear shoes around the house, we usually put on warm socks or slippers as soon as we get home.  I like to be comfortable at home.

In our circle of friends, it seems that people who have put in new carpeting or flooring, everyone then asks that you remove your shoes.  It's not really a huge deal to me to do it and I would any way if my shoes were dirty.  I just prefer to know ahead of time so I don't end up barefoot.  We have been trying to preserve carpet as best as possible so we don't wear shoes in our house either.

CutesBoots

No, I don't expect my guests to remove their shoes.  I don't take off my shoes as a guest unless asked or I cannot wipe them clean at the door.

I usually cringe on the inside when a host asks me to remove my shoes. It's not that I'm trying to show any disrespect, but I am very uncomfortable without them.  I have a deformity in one of my feet that I prefer NOT to show off.  Also, I break my toes easily if they aren't protected.

And for this reason, I'll probably never live in Japan

RaeAnt

Interesting question. i have only been in one house that it was "required" and that is my one cousin who is very anal about having her house clean and the carpet was a very light, almost white color. but to have someone take off their shoes in our house...hmm.. when people have they have usually asked first if it is ok to do so. Those who haven't i kinda think that they are awfully familiar and are planning on staying awhile. Now if i notice they have really dirsty /muddy shoes and i just cleaned, then i might ask, but otherwise I'd actaully prefer they keep them on.

PuppyMommy

This is one of my biggest pet peeves. I think it is VERY rude to expect or ask your (adult) guests to remove their shoes. Why in the world would anyone put something on the FLOOR that they do not want people to walk on in shoes?  I would much rather spend some time scrubbing the carpet than be tacky enough to make my guests remove their shoes. I should also add that we have very light carpeting throughout our upstairs (we didn't choose it).

My H's relatives had a party at their house once and everyone was dressed up. They made everyone take off all of their shoes at the door.  Do you know how ridiculous it looked when we walked in and saw all of these people dressed to the nines....in their socks and pantyhose with no heels.  It was weird and you could tell no one was comfortable with it.  As you can tell, this bothers me...haha.