Over from Parenting board w/ a partner question

veloelle

Hi ladies

I'm normally on the Parenting board, but I have a same sex question. One of my clients has a partner, and I can't remember her name; I only met her once. We are inviting our client to dinner and I'd like to invite her partner as well. I don't know how to ask her; she's pretty hush hush about her personal live and has only brought her partner to one event. She never formally said 'this is my partner/girlfriend' but it was assumed.

I want to be respectful w/out being totally presumptuous. Should I just say "Jane, if you'll be coming with your partner, we'd love for her to come to dinner..."

Thank you!!

 

TheSongAllAlong

Hmmm, kinda tough since she likes to keep things on DL, but i don't see a problem with your idea of what to say. Go with it! Partner is always acceptable in my book, just dont get flustered and say "friend" that drives me nuts!

 

ctbride08

do you know Jane's partner's name? I would just say "Feel free to bring XXX - we'd love to see her again!"

cookiemonster03

If you can track down her name, I think that'd be best... I don't love the word partner (but that's my hangup). If not, maybe just "feel free to bring someone!"

Duchess1

If you can find out her name that is best. If not, a simple please feel free to bring a guest should be fine. It's so nice that you asked :-)

CCbride08

I think finding out her name and inviting her that way would be best. However if you can't find it out I would say "feel free to bring you partner". That to me would acknowledge that you knew, were cool with it and that you weren't just saying bring a "friend". I hope that helps.

Mrs._F

I agree with pps that her name would be best, but "your partner" is totally fine too.