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Prayers please....
My mom was admitted to the hospital yesterday after suffering a mini stroke. She woke up in the morning unable to move her left arm and leg completely. It went away, but when it came back later that morning my dad took her into the ER. They took an MRI and fortunately found no major blockages. The Dr.s told her to take this is a warning sign that she has to change.
The problem is, as some of you may remember, that this isn't the first (second, or third) warning sign that my mom needs to change her habits. My sister, father, DH and I are at wits end trying to get her to change her ways. My sister was out there with her yesterday, as I've been sick with the flu/bronchitis for the past week and couldn't be there. I feel completely hopeless that my mom will ever realize that if she continues on this path, death isn't too far off. .
My mom has suffered from tachycardia for years, hypertension, then there was a sudden onset of bleeding from her uterus, and just months ago she suffered a mild heart attack. She's overweight, doesn't really watch what she eats, does no exercise and smokes. To make matters worse, she lives all the way in La Quinta and my dad pretty much is only there on the weekends as he works in Long Beach. I'm constantly worrying about her and being 2 hours away if I need to get to her. I was upset that I couldn't be there this weekend, but at the same time, I'm starting to feel the same resentment my sister has struggled with; That our mom just doesn't give a sh!t about herself, or how all of us would suffer with out her, that it's easier for her to just give up and continue on this road to destruction then it would be to make just a couple of sacrifices in her lifestyle. Being pregnant has made this even more difficult for me because I feel like I need and want my mother around me more than ever. I want to see her as a grandmother to my daughter just like I've watched her enjoy being a grandmother to my niece and nephew. I can't believe that she doesn't care enough to take care of herself to see that it happens. DH wants to stage and "intervention" with the entire family to talk to her, but knowing my mom she would completely shut down and shut us all out, and continue on this path just to prove a point. (Yeah, my sister tried, it was a HUGE fight and they didn't talk for months) I really feel like my back is against the wall with her. I just need prayers for some kind of guidance, and hopefully some miracle that my mother will understand what she needs to do.
Re: Prayers please....
I am so sorry that you are going through this...My thoughts and prayers are with your family. I hope she will change her ways.
Sorry you are going through this. ?My prayers are with you & your family.
I know your dh's heart is in the right place. ?
Is there any way you can speak with her Dr.? Let him know how she is acting and maybe he can refer your family to someone that may be able to speak to her without making her feel like she is being ganged up on. Maybe some sort of social worker, or maybe even a therapist of some kind that can convey the gravity of the situation, and maybe even a dietician that can show her some examples of foods that are good tasting that can help in her diet.
I hope she changes her mind and wants to be able to stick around for your daughter.?
Thanks everybody for your prayers and concerns, I was feeling pretty dark last night, but things are already looking better to me today!
So glad it seems a little better today & glad your sis ratted on mom. It really is important for the Dr. to know the real story & sometimes the patient just doesn't tell the whole story.
Glad you are going to get on her & weight watchers challenge sounds like a great thing.
Will continue to pray that she stays healthy in the meantime.?