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Poll: First fight
1. When did you have your first BIG fight as a married couple?
2. What was it about?
3. What was your reaction?
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Re: Poll: First fight
1. When did you have your first BIG fight as a married couple? I don't remember many of our fights so that must mean they're not BIG. The one I do remember was about a year ago so we were married about a year and a half.
2. What was it about? Our roles changed because we moved and I was staying home. DH was starting to treat me more like a maid than a wife. Plus, I was crazy homesick and about ready to get on the first plan outta here.
3. What was your reaction? I do what I always do. Let it bottle up inside of me until I blew up at him. Then we had it out and talked it through. We also made a list together of all the things that need to get done around the house and who should do them primarily. 95% of the things on the list are mine but at least he knows he's in charge of the trash and recycling. We're really good at making lists.
This is a good one, you know I really can't remember what our first fight was about, which will show stupid it truely was. My husband and I have been together for 9 years, 7 years the day we got married, and now have been married for two years. The fights I laugh about now are the ones we had when we were 16 and 17 years old, my god were we immature. :0)
Our first fight I think was over his mom, I was begging for him to make up with her and he didn't want too, and they haven't spoken now in two years. Looking back it probably was for the best. I hate regrets, and I didn't want him to have any. ;0)
1. The biggest fight probably was (and still is) about our friend who is renting our spare bedroom. I want DH to tell him to go and he's too chicken.
2. See #1.
3. I'm still angry, although not as badly. We talked about it and talked it over. The gist of it is that neither one of us is happy, but we don't want to ruin our friendship with this guy (who has been living with us for almost two years out of the 3 1/2 we have been married), so neither one of us is going to say anything to him (well, I did, but DH told me, correctly, that I should back off a bit). I guess I was a little vocal.
1. Ours was about a month or two after we had gotten married.
2. I believe it was over him having just gotten home from work, and I had cooked a nice dinner, and he wanted to go out with friends. (Stupid, I know. Now I would push him out the door, wave good bye and put his dinner in the fridge!)
3. I am a yeller, door slammer, etc. I'm pretty sure my husband was standing there going "uh..." while I blew around the apartment yelling. I remember distinctly thinking "Crap, I live here, there is no where to go..." and the realization really set in that we were married.
1. The day after our wedding.
2. Something to do with his sister. She was MOH against my wishes and screwed up a bunch of stuff she demanded to be put in charge of. I was 1200 miles away and helpless.
3. Shouldn't have been surprised. We dated for over 4 years before getting married. It's always something with her. But I was trying to be nice.
We've been married for 1.5 years and never had a big fight.
We've have minor fights relating to 1. he thinks I drink too much/stay out too late on occassion 2. He has a weird phobia of participating in charity activities and he refuses to register to vote.
We get along really well which is nice.
We have been together almost 8 years, but married 2 years in Aug.
1. When did you have your first BIG fight as a married couple? I found out he spent $500 on baseball cards on ebay. The spring after our wedding.
2. What was it about? See 1
3. What was your reaction? I checked our account and added up the ebay purchases. I told him that I need to talk to him about something. We sat down, I laid it on the table. He turned white, he started apologizing and said he had no idea it was that bad. I told him that money is one of the main reasons people fight in relationships and it wasnt something I wanted to fight about and that trust was essential. He agreed, and said he would put enough of his collection on ebay to pay us back for all of the money he spent. He did this, I trust him, we have moved on
Obviously, we don't fight much... because thats the only fight I can ever think of, and it wasnt really a fight, but more of an intervention.
Go ahead and laugh- BASEBALL CARDS! WTF?