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PCP/TTC/* Wednesday
It's Wednesday! What's the word? Let's hear your updates!
As we have expanded beyond PCP and TTC, I added a place holder, *.
* = fostering, adopting, already-have-children-ing... you know we like to hear it all!
QOTD: Who is the first person you did or will tell when you got/get pregnant or know you have a child coming to you in some way?
married 03/08/08 -- ttc with PCOS (dx 2005) & DS
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
finally blogging again at This Will Be: An Adventure
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
finally blogging again at This Will Be: An Adventure
Re: PCP/TTC/* Wednesday
After S I called my best friend (my maid of honor). We have been friend since we were in preschool and pretty much had the same childhood. I consider her my sister (since my real one sucks). She has been with us the whole way on our ttc. She may be more excited than I am.
On our front I am still working on the daycare. My mom said she would do one day a week which is great. We really liked the daycare we saw but I am waiting to hear from another home daycare. It is one of the secretaries sister and many people at school use her. It was my first choice but I didn't think that we could get in. Now we may have a chance. She is waiting for one of her families to decide if they are staying next year. If they go we have a spot! The pros it is $1 cheaper/hr so $7.50/hr than the other place and is even closer to our apt. It is .9 mi from my house and .9 mi from school. The other place is close but I could walk and pick the baby up with a stroller for goodness sake! The other place is 2.3 mi from my house and .8 mi from school. I know I have two good choices. I just hope it all works out.
Oh and we bought our first pack of pa.mpers this weekend. We are trying to stock up on some baby items over the next few months so that we don't have to spend it all at once. Just seems like it will hurt less spread out over time. Anything else we should stock pile????
QOTD: After K of course. My best friend Lindsay will get the first call. I think K will call her sister V or maybe our gay boys. I think I'll also send an IM to a buddy I know can keep a secret. ;-)
First person we called was my best friend. Followed by L's best friend. Followed by a couple of our mutually good friends. I think we called them within the hour of getting the positive digital preg test (we had to go out and get a digital one since I the other one was so light, I was skeptical.) We didn't tell our parents till after week 12 (or 13?)
As for stockpiling - one thing that we did was buy diapers on sale, but affixed the receipt to the box in case they needed to be returned for a different size. You have no idea how long Junior will be in newborns, size 1s, etc. Once you get to higher sizes (3 and above) they stay in that size much longer - but those first few sizes go by in a breeze! And you can never have too many wipes. We love the Huggues no scent ones - the others made the boys' bottoms break out and they were soooo stinky (the wipes - not the bottoms (well, they were too sometimes!))
Sam - Good luck with that home daycare! How great would it be to walk to pick up the baby?!
QOTD: Honestly, I will probably post here before we call anyone! I think aside from my inevitable announcement here on the board, we are going to want to keep the news to ourselves for a few days. My dear friend Leigh will be fully informed while we TTC, so she will likely be my first phone call.
How about PCP/TTC/ATP (All Things Parenting) Wednesday?
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
Update: We have two big upcoming appointments.
#1 is this Friday with my regular gyn to discuss the results of the TV ultrasound.
#2 is Friday the 20th with the RE we plan to use, Preston Sacks. He's the person who wrote the foreword to Brill's "New Essential Guide". We met him a little over a year ago when he came to talk with our Maybe Baby class, and both immediately decided we'd like to consider working with him. This will be our initial consult with him, and I'm very excited!
QOTD: Honestly? Y'all might be the first people I tell. We're not planning to tell family or friends until the 2nd tri, but I think I'll be itching to spill the beans to someone before then! There's a slight chance we'd tell my SIL and brother, but only after swearing them to secrecy!
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
finally blogging again at This Will Be: An Adventure
QOTD: After Trav we told our best friends: Babs & Ro for me (childhood best friend and college best friend), Pat for him (college best friend).
As for our news, I met with my cardiologist last Friday to make sure that all is still well. I haven't seen her in 5 years, but pregnancy hormones can sometimes bring back my condition. They did a quick EKG, she discussed my pregnancy so far, and had a listen to my heart. All seemed fine. She scheduled me for an Echo and a Holter monitor (on the 13th), but as long as those come back clear, I never have to see her again!!! Woo-hoo!!!
The biggest thing right now is that our first ultrasound is tomorrow. It's our NT scan, so I'm hoping for a lovely moving, right on track baby! Wish us luck... this is the first time we will get to see or hear our little one!
Trav sent me the cutest email about it this morning: "Wow. Jamie [his boss] asked me if there was a particular reason I had off tomorrow and I just said nothing much, doctors appointments and stuff.
I am so excited!!! Can?t stop thinking about it.
Love You!"
:-)
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
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As to what to stockpile for a new baby....well diapers are a good start. Also, I went thru about a million baby wipes. Also, those little receiving blankets are a life saver. I had a huge stack and I used them to provide a clean surface while out shopping to change him on or to catch the oopsies when he got sick or burped. And I could go on and on. So DEFINITELY get plenty.
Also, baby lotion. When DJ was first born, he peeled for a little while and I hated him looking like a little lizard that was molting. So I lotioned alot. But while I may seem a bit anal...all the lotioning kept him from having any diaper rash. He was the cutest little moisturized baby around! ha ha!!
Not to mention, the lotioning is a chance to massage his/her little muscles and provide some very comforting contact between mom and baby. Plus with all the hand washings YOU will be doing, your hands will appreciate the lotion too! He's 12 now and I still carry baby lotion for my hands...
Good luck!! KnS
I wish I had an update. For now we are just waiting, waiting, waiting for that phone to ring. We had a 3 hour visit from a social worker yesterday. They ask you a million questions so they can make the best match possible. This mostly applies to matching older children but it was nice to get to "sell" ourselves a bit.
Honestly, we didn't tell too many people IRL about fostering, our moms and then some friends and extended family. Not everyone knows yet. If we ever get PG, it will be you guys and the blog and no one else until we are pretty far along.
I would probably want to tell my Mom, which makes me a little sad because we're estranged. I would tell my Dad though, he'd be very excited. And then J's family, and our church family and our Seattle family. Honestly I'd probably climb up on top of my roof and shout it all for everyone in the land to hear. :-)
The firest time I got pg with the baby we lost, I called my mom right away. With this pg, I wanted to spare my mom going through pain again if this one didn't make it, so I only told my best friend.
As for stockpiling, so far I am picking up a few little things everytime I go to the store to keep from having a big bill later. I have baby wash, lotion, baby q-tips, a few different types of newborn pacifiers, baby motrin, gas drops and a few other little things.
~Kennedy
Kennedy - just a hint - get infant Tylenol. You can't use infant Motrin till the baby is 6 months old - and you'll want some kind of pain relief before then! And buy Target brand gas drops. They are 1/3 the price of the name brand (Mylicon) and work just as well (we lived by gas drops forever!!!)
I can't believe how time is flying! You are almost there!!
As for updates we are starting Clomid with the trigger shot this cycle. Nothing much going on.
QOTDA: I would first tell my wife, then I would tell my mom, dad and sister.
So exciting to see everyone's updates and QOTD answers!
Mrs._F, I love "ATP"! ATP it is. I also had to lol when I saw your answer-- we must have been typing at the same moment and thinking the same thing!
ssg: Good luck with the daycare-- sounds like you have some great options in the works.
Meegs: That email is so, so sweet!
2brides: I am SO glad to hear about the good experiences with Dr. Sacks! I feel very reassured to know that you know people who have used him and like him.
Best wishes to everyone!
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
finally blogging again at This Will Be: An Adventure
I know! Too funny - we were in synch there!
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
All is well with Maggie. She is growing incredibly fast. She was two months old on the 1st and has almost doubled her birth weight already -- she is no longer our tiny baby. She is adorable -- smiling and sorta giggling these days. She rolled over a few times too. She is awesome.
As for things to stockpile -- burp cloths. We use them constantly. We got some cloth diapers (flats -- not prefolds) and they make great burp cloths. We also have prefolds for diapering, but that is a different story. Oh, and stockpile laundry detergent -- I never thought I would do laundry almost daily -- but we do.
In terms of who we told first -- we told our donor -- both b/c we love him and he was integrally involved, and because he needed to know for logistical reasons (not needing to insem the next cycle). Otherwise we waited a bit and told our parents and sibs and slowly told our closest friends.
we're still waiting, and i'm going crazy! we test on saturday. c has had some symptoms that she hasn't had before and may or may not be related to this try. i'm hoping they are, but i'm also trying not to get my hopes up too much...
as far as who we'll tell, i don't want to run out and tell everyone we know right away just in case. i'm guessing i'll post it here and on the blog pretty quickly, so anyone who follows either will know i suppose. i'd like to try and personally tell some folks who follow the blog regularly before i actually post anything there, most importantly my sister, and we'll probably tell my parents pretty quickly as well. i've been keeping my mom up to date, and she's been updating my dad, but i'd like to tell them both together.
The God Parents will be the first to know.
They were the first to find out the last 2 pregnancies we have had and have been totally supportive when we lost both times. They may be the only ones who know aside from us and the doctors until we are 24 weeks along - we are very afraid of losing again, what made this situations worse was that we had to go tell everyone we had told we were pregnant that we had lossed the babies
It was so hard.