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Can I vent so I don't cry (again)? sorry if this is long - UPDATE!!!
OMG, most of y'all know how I am so miserable in my job - and it's not really the job itself and granted I'm REALLY grateful to have one in this economy, but its more my manager......
He has called me things that feel like personal attacks (as he's stated he thinks I am this personally and professionally - hellow??!?!?! you don't even know me!!!! nor do I talk to him on a personal level), he has said I'm confrontational, argumentative, and don't know what my job entails, among other things. No one has ever described me in this manner - personally or professionally. B said he wouldn't have married me if I was either - ha ha. (can you tell all I can do is laugh as to not cry AGAIN? and it takes a lot for me to cry). manager = fail x 1
But now I have to meet w/my manager weekly as if I'm some new college grad (no offense but I've been a proj manager for over 10 yrs now) or as if I'm in training. Which I should have been trained A LONG time ago - I've been here 2 yrs. I'm seriously NOT stupid and would not be where I am today if I was. Really. So he stated that he would be meeting w/me weekly to "get to know me better" and to set expectations. HA HA right. So now we've only met once and he just gives me a "to do list" of things I'm already working on. thanks, me = stupid.
So we couldn't meet face to face this week so I wrote up a HUGE email that included all my updates and what I was working on - you'd think that would be good huh? uh no, he disects everything I wrote to include tasks we never discussed relating to what I'm already working on. manager = fail x 2
So then I get compliments from my clients yesterday so I forward them to my manager - no response.
manager = fail x 3
I just want to give up. I think it may be better to laugh than to cry (I've cried 5 times at work since having this new manager). and maybe a few drinks......
ok, sorry so long and thanks for letting me vent girls.
Is it time for me to go to Italy yet?!?!!? ha.
UPDATE: he's now put my co-worker in tears and she is upset.
Not only did I receive another compliment from her, but from another vendor as well. I'm SO saving all this for my next review........
Re: Can I vent so I don't cry (again)? sorry if this is long - UPDATE!!!
Thanks Leelee girl!!!! yeah, I pray every morning for God to give me patience and strength along with him too. That's the only way I know how to deal right now.
The sad part is that EVERYONE I work with here likes me along with the clients - what's HIS problem?!!?!?!
Awww I am so sorry! He sounds horrible!! Definitely vent it out! That always makes me feel better! I will be thinking about you and hopefully things will get a little better!
HUGS!!!!
I am so sorry you are having to deal with this!!! ?Having a manager who watches and critiques your every move is so difficult. ?Believe me, I have been there and I know it can make every day miserable. ?Good for you for forwarding the compliments to him. ?I'd do the same thing ?;)
?Hang in there girl!! ?We are here if you need us!!!?
Thanks girls, I truly have never been in a situation like this. And really I'm not one to "toot my own horn" but it feels like I have to now.
and yes, I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. I have even tried to talk to him about how he may be misinterpreting/misunderstanding me and really doesn't know me and he just changes the subject.
manager = fail x 4 (that's the count I'm at now, right?!!?!? ha ha )
I'm so sorry that you're still dealing with this. Could you go over his head and possibly relay your issues to his supervisor??? Something has to give, you can't continue down this path. I've heard sooo many people say that they've left good paying jobs b/c of management/bosses/etc. No job, nor money is worth the amount of stress that you go through on a daily basis.
This is going to sound really juvenille and it might not work in your situation, yet have you thought about leaving that job and working 2 part time jobs until another positon in your field comes available. I've got a friend that's planning on doing that right now. If you're in a situation that might allow you to do this, that would be great. You could take on 2 part time jobs until you found a job at another place that you'd like. I'm pretty sure that not a lot of PT jobs (regardless if it's one or 2 jobs) would compensate you like what your making now, yet I'm not sure that I'd be able to continue dealing with your boss everyday.
Sorry this is so long, I was just offering any solution/advice I can think of. Sending you hugs.
I would go to my Sr Dir, but he is even more stressed than my manager and this seems miniscule (sp?) in comparison to obtaining revenue (so I can keep my job, ha). If things don't get better I will be doing that as I know he's easy to talk to (and he likes me).
I wish I could get another job, take on 2 PT but I'm the breadwinner. Unfortunately. I will always have to work and with 2 mortgages I don't think 2 PT jobs would do it, esp in a college town where they usually take all the PT jobs.
I guess I just deal and try my best. Even though that's never going to be good enough for him. I either need a new boss, new job or we are going to have to move for a job for me.
I appreciate all the nice words and advice/encouragement. I needed to vent and know how great y'all are. Sorry to be Nancy Negative. ha ha
I also think all I can do is pray about it, put it in God's hands - as that is where it is best.
sucky managers suck!
believe me ! I have one!!!
I'm so sorry!!!
Katie, I know how miserable you are. I'm sorry for what you're going through. I've had managers like that before so I know exactly what you're going through. It makes going to work hard every morning and you pray that you make it through the day without bursting into tears. But I still believe there is something bigger and better for you out there and when it's the right time, it'll happen.
Hang in there sweetie! ((((hugs)))))
you girls are absolutely the best.
I'm just praying about it and getting my stuff out there as much as I can.
Thanks so much, I feel blessed to have y'all to turn to.
And Heather, I'd LOVE to be working in AU so we could do lunch all the time!!!!