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:-(
DH just called to tell me that his work schedule is going to be changing. Long story short - he has no seniority and is going to be put on a 4pm - midnight shift with Sunday and Monday off regularly.
It's the same hours he works now, but his days off are the thing that's changing. Right now, he has a rotating schedule, so sometimes he has weird days off like Tuesday & Wednesday, but a lot of the time he has weekends off. So we still manage to have dinner together a couple nights a week, get together with friends, and go on day trips and weekends away. But not anymore. One of us will have to take a day off to be able to do any of that now.
I'm upset because him having only Sunday and Monday off is going to suck. We'll never have an evening off together other than Sundays, and Sundays are the worst evenings to be our ONLY evenings. Nothing's open late, no one will want to get together, and I have to go to work the next day. It just stinks.
We've worked through every other odd schedule he's ever had in the PD, so I know we'll work through this one, too, but I needed to pout and vent and be sad for a minute. Thanks for listening.
It's the same hours he works now, but his days off are the thing that's changing. Right now, he has a rotating schedule, so sometimes he has weird days off like Tuesday & Wednesday, but a lot of the time he has weekends off. So we still manage to have dinner together a couple nights a week, get together with friends, and go on day trips and weekends away. But not anymore. One of us will have to take a day off to be able to do any of that now.
I'm upset because him having only Sunday and Monday off is going to suck. We'll never have an evening off together other than Sundays, and Sundays are the worst evenings to be our ONLY evenings. Nothing's open late, no one will want to get together, and I have to go to work the next day. It just stinks.
We've worked through every other odd schedule he's ever had in the PD, so I know we'll work through this one, too, but I needed to pout and vent and be sad for a minute. Thanks for listening.
Re: :-(
Rotations suck! I totally hear you. My Dh is working his 4th night of 12 hour shifts (6pm-6am.) I can't wait to see him tomorrow night! His days off are never the same. The only saving grace is that we know the schedule a year in advance.
I usually get to see him just 2 nights during the week and hardly ever on the weekends - maybe in the morning, sometimes on Saturdays he doesn't have to be in until 1pm (but then doesn't get home until midnight). Sundays he works 11am to 9 pm, though they often have 8 am meetings. It really sucks, but he doesn't want to stay in this industry forever so we suck it up.
I try to focus on the positive stuff I get to do in my alone time (though there is waaaay too much of it) I get to watch the movies I want, go out with my girlfriends, read a lot, etc but it does get lonely sometimes! On top of this we're househunting, which means I usually have to take a morning or afternoon off because he can't do that on short notice. I would love to have Sundays with him! If you need to vent more, I'm sure I'll be around! We can have pity parties together.
Maybe his schedule will change again in a short amount of time. Does he have any vacation time accrued where the two of you can take some time off together?
I have to look on the bright side though. Now that we have our DS, he will be able to watch in a couple days during the week and he won't be at day care full time. But as DS grows up, DH will also miss a lot of things.
Maybe your DH's schedule will change again soon? Is there anyway he can request a change?
Thanks so much for the cheering-up and for sharing your stories! It's always good to hear that there are so many other people out there who can relate. I tell myself that all the time, I just have to listen to my own advice more often!
I'm done pouting, for the most part. It'll be okay. We talked about it a little more last night and he guarantees me that it will be a good thing, because he gets more days off for working this schedule. It's just going to be another adjustment, and we can handle that.
I have no idea how long he will be on this schedule, but he is actively pursuing other units to make his way toward Detective sooner. There's a possibility of him switching units within a year, but it's impossible to know what his schedule would then be. Most likely, the same as now. It is what it is. Thanks again, ladies.