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thoughts on motorcycles?
I know I don't post alot, but I need an objective opinion. My husband has been pushing me to let him get a motorcycle. I have always been very much against them due to them not being very safe. But, I don't know a lot about them either. I keep flip flopping on the issue and just don't know what to tell him. He is willing to let me put any restrictions that I want on it (has to take classes, no freeways, short trips only for a while, etc) and then I feel ok about it, then I get terrified that something will happen to him. He's a police officer so he already has a lot of risk in his job, and a lot of the guys he works with have motorcycles and assure me that it's not as bad as what I'm thinking, but I just don't know. We went to look at them today, and a few of the other customers were telling me that as long as you drive them responsibly it's not so bad. It's when you start acting stupid that something could happen, but of course they have motorcycles. So, I just don't know what to do. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. thanks!
Re: thoughts on motorcycles?
I worked in the hospital, on the trauma unit, through college. I saw the difference of the helmets, and it was surreal. Most of the people were motorcylce or ATV accidents it felt like.
It's probably not as bad as you are thinking, but not as rosy as he thinks either.
My husband will be getting a motorcycle this next year. He is a responsible driver, he took a course offered by the Honda motorcycle dealer in Heath. Have you looked into him taking a safety course? We paid $150 for a 2 day class; Christopher couldn't have been happier with the results. I really think you should look into it.
That being said, based on my religious beliefs I think God has a plan for everyone and if my husband's way to go is on a motorcycle, I can't fight that. He LOVES riding his motorcycle (I joke probably as much as he loves me). When good weather hits, he is all about his bike and going on rides. He and I have always said, if that was his way to go, at least he goes doing something that is a passion of his. He would stop riding for me if I asked him to (it would probably take a lot of pleading, but he would do it) but for me, I couldn't ask him to do that. I know how much he loves it, and even though he would tell me that he would not resent me for it, I would feel that deep down he would, and I don't want that. I trust him and his riding, and the best that I can ask of him is that he wear his helmet, be as safe as he can possibly be, watch out for other drivers, and if he is going to be out for a while, check in with me as much as possible, or any time he stops, and he is very good about all of this.
Now my husband and I do not have children yet. Some would tell me that having children would change my opinion completely about the situation. I honestly can't comment on that, because again, we don't have children yet. But I would like to think that my opinion wouldn't change. Afterall, I am the child of my father who rides a motorcycle, and though I am grown and not dependant on him anymore, it would no less terrible to lose my father.
So there you have it....just some things to consider. This is simply what works for me and my family. You and your husband do what works best for you. Best of luck in making a decision!
Please, let me give my thoughts on motorcycles. 13 years ago, I lost my father to a motorcycle accident. he was on his way to work and an older couple pulled out in front of him not giving him enough time to stop. I am sure you think I am going to tell you that because of this, he should NOT get a motorcycle. But, i am not. My family loved motorcycles, it was something we all did together and there is something to be said about the wind on you as your are on the open rode. To this day, my mom and brother and aunt and uncle still ride. Do i worry every single day they are on them? of course, but life is too short to not do things because we are fearful of the outcome. Your husband could be hurt just as easily in a car accident as on the motorcycle. As long as he is alert and cautious, he will be safe, and it will be fun for both of you.
good luck!
Shanna