Anyone ever feel.....

bridetobe76

Lately I feel like I'm the only one that isn't pregnant or has a baby. Never used to let it bother me until I turned 30 now I seem to worry about it all the time. Hubby is not ready, I am close to feeling ready. We have a lot going on right now. Signing papers today to start construction on our new house. Would at least like to be done with that before baby comes. Plus I worry about having trouble getting pregnant etc. Sorry just needed to vent a bit...and wondered if anyone feels the same way.

michaelliz

Natalie,

I don't really know how you feel since I do have a baby. BUT, I will say that I never thought I was ready. I was scared to death to be pregnant and be a  Mom.  It scared the crap out of me knowing I was soon going to be responsible for a little person. That little person counted on me for EVERYTHING! YIKES! I just wanted to agreee with you ont he fact that you are never really ever ready. And unfortunately....we are at that age when the majority of people are having babies.  My one sister ( I have 5) is 35 and chose not to have children and sometimes I feel like she is jealous because us sisters that do have babies are so much closer. Anyways...totally got off the subject there. But we are always here to listen! Don't be too sad....at least you don't have to find a babysitter when you want to go to dinner with your husband!

HUGS!

 

JenOSU03

I feel that way too.  My closest friends have children so I feel like everyone has kids except for me sometimes. But DH is not ready for children and there are more things I want to do before having them.  It really annoys me that people are starting to ask when we are going to have children.

jannypie

i do sometimes, although i'm slowly becoming accustomed to talking baby all the time. it is hard when you're around it all the time, since its such a huge event in other peoples lives.

brainstorm102

Yep. They are all legitimate concerns. I had them for the last couple years as younger friends had kids before me. I felt the pressure. (Especially when my grandma started to ask my Aunt & Uncle if I was EVER going to have kids.) But you know what? It's not a race. Try to enjoy where you are in your life right now. Looking forward to building and decorating your new home.

You'll get to having kids soon enough and then you'll get a whole new set of worries/concerns. Like "What was I thinking?" and "Will I ever sleep again?" Even though I'm pregnant now at 31, I still feel out of place because I'm not one of those people that live and breathe being a mom. So I guess my rebellious streak continues and I'm okay with that.

buckeyechik

I totally feel the same way.  It's weird, though--in some parts of my life (my high school friends & our closest college friends)), I'm still one of few even thinking about kids right now.  But around the Nest, my work, and my C-bus friends, I feel like we're the last ones.  We're still waiting--impatiently for both of us.  But we're in the same place you are--waiting for certain things (felt like we should just be married for a bit longer, waiting for our jobs to settle down, getting things done in our house, etc.)...but I still worry about having trouble once we do begin to try and then wondering why we waited for so long to start.  They're all rational concerns.....at least I think so   But only you will know when the time is right, no matter how old you are.  I keep reminding myself that we do have 9 months (hopefully) to get used to the idea and get ready once we do get pregnant. 

YourSong

I feel that way sometime too.  It almost makes me feel a little bit behind the times.  When reading about all the trouble so many women, it makes me feel like I need to get started.  But, I know I'm not ready.  Neither is DH.  (But, he is closer than I.)  I kinda hope that things just happen on accident.  Then we don't have to worry about things.

tropical.dreams

Oh my gosh, those thoughts are the biggest ones in my head right now!

I'll be 30 in 3 weeks, and I'm divorced, but living with my boyfriend of 9 months, and it's just that stage in my life where I'm ready, really ready in my heart, to get pregnant. But there are obviously things that we need to happen before we get engaged, let alone get pregnant.

It doesn't help that all of my old high school acquaintances are on my mySpace page, and all have at least one child, some even two or three. I have no friends without kids...therefore, I really have no friends, b/c they have a different type of life than I do, so it makes it hard to keep being friends with them.

I'm right there with you...I don't know what the magic solution is, though...I guess it's just dealing with time, until it's time to happen...

bridetobe76

You girls are so awesome. Thanks for listening and I'm glad I'm not the only one out there. You really made me feel better. Girls I went to highschool with are parents or pregnant. I just hate to wait too long and then have trouble and wish we had tried sooner. But if it meant to be we will be blessed with a baby someday. I'm here for all you ladies if you need to vent or talk.

sparky88

Yup, I feel the same way.  Many of my friends are younger (less than 25) and have taken over 1+ years to get pregnant so I get freaked out thinking about waiting any longer.  I am going to more baby showers than I can count this spring and each time the 'baby fever' pang gets a little worse.  I've had the fever for over 2 years and I wish it would just be time to TTC already.  I feel you!

AmberOH

I feel that way sometimes too!  Both of my great friends in town are pregnant w/ their first ones, so it's become ever more pronounced!  DH & I talk about it, but he's not quite ready yet.  We had planned on TTC this spring, but have to wait until he's 100% ready (ok, maybe 75% ready, doubt he'll ever be 100% ready LOL)! 
We'll see, but I'm not getting any younger either!  I'll be 33 in 6 months....