{ joescop } how did the weekend go?

jannypie

i was thinking about you and your situation all weekend. i'm sure it was tough being around him. let us know how it went!

jannypie

just saw your response to Rhiannon's post! feel free to answer anyways so i dont feel silly, LOL! have you made any progress on the game plan?

joescop

No worries.   I didn't see him much, I got back much later than I anticipated on Saturday (like 9:30 p.m.) so we watched a hockey game (I fell asleep before the 2nd period.)  Then Sunday, I went to church and then to work until 11pm.  So, I haven't seen him much.  I did hear from the detective working my file at NNPD and he said I should be getting interviewed in late Jan. or mid Feb.  My brother told me that my room at his house in VA is ready to move into.  What do you ladies think, should I just move to VA already and work from there or move in with my sister and then move in with my brother if I get this internship?

Rodeogrl02

I'm so very late catching all of this. So I wanted to send big ((HUGS)) and give my two cents about this latest question.

My suggestion is move in with your sis. She's been through this, so she can lend support, plus dealing with moving stuff, filing for separation/divorce will be much easier if your still local.

Good Luck and I'm keeping you in my thoughts!

Temp655608750006792

Your financial situation is what I think most of us are worried about.  Do you have an update on that?  Hang in there and know that we are all supporting you!!

cork2win

Heather, since it sounds like the VA thing is still up in the air (this isn't a sure thing, is it?) you should move in with your sister and get things moving.  It will be far too hard to do all this from VA, whether or not you get the internship, and like pp said since she's been through it she will probably be able to help you a lot.

Good luck.  Stay strong.

k&d2006

I remember being in a poor relationship with my ex, and if you wait until the VA thing approaches, you might not do anything at all. Your DH will have smoothed things over so you forget how "done" you are, and you'll continue being miserable. Take the energy now to move in with your sis. I know it's hard, but do it for your future happiness, and try not to dwell on how upside down things will be for awhile.

joescop

Oh sure, financially, I have my own account.  I plan to go to the bank this week and have my name taken off of the joint account.  I'm having my paychecks put into my account and not the joint account.  So, basically, he has no money.  There's about $125 in our joint acct. now and I have to pay a bill today that will wipe that out.  So, he's broke.

Temp655608750006792

Thank you for letting us know.  I really think you are making the right choice for yourself.  You have done what is right financially and are protecting your money which is wonderful.  Make sure you aren't on any credit cards that he might have access to.  I would say not to wait until VA happens, I would move to your sisters when you can.  Please keep us posted!!   

joescop

I actually meant, move to VA around Feb. 1st.  My schedule at the shelter is monthly so I'm not scheduled for any Feb. hours and they know about my internship possibility. 

I have to plan a day to move to my sister's even.
With working so much, I haven't even started packing.  I haven't been home to do it.