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Your opinions, please...
A little backstory - Kaelyn, my oldest daughter, is my husband's stepdaughter. We have been together since she was 2 (she is 6 now), so as long as she can remember, he has been her father figure. Her real father joined the Marines also when she was 2, so she can't even remember him being here. He lives in California now.
When Kaelyn is talking to Jason, she may say "hey Jason" or "hey Daddy Jason", and she refers to her father as "my Daddy BJ" when talking about him. However, when she is talking to her friends at school about Jason, she says "my dad". This is how it has always been. When she thinks about a family, I am her mom and Jason is her dad, and she has two sisters, and she has another dad that lives far away.
Here is the problem: Last weekend, Kaelyn went to California to visit her dad for Christmas. Everything went fine, she had a good time, and was happy to see him. However, she told me when she came home that her dad told her that she was not allowed to call Jason "Daddy", because he is not her real dad. Kaelyn said that she told her dad that she could call Jason whatever she wanted (which is what we told her, it is her choice), and her dad said that she was not allowed, because it made HIM uncomfortable.
It killed me to see her so confused. I wanted to call him and talk to him about it, but Kaelyn asked me not to. Jason told her later on that no matter what, she could call him whatever she wanted to. So, do you think I should call her dad out on this, or just let it go since she doesn't see him often? He says he is coming back to Ohio in April, so I would like to get this problem taken care of before then, but I don't want Kaelyn to be upset that I talked to him about it.
Your thoughts/opinions? Thanks!
Re: Your opinions, please...
Thanks for your input! As far as Kaelyn finding out, her dad is pretty immature, and if I would call him, I'm sure he would say something to her about it, or say something to his parents who would then say something to Kaelyn.
I know exactly what she is going through! My dad wasn't around when I was a kid, and took my mom to court for visitation rights on my 17th birthday! To this day our relationship is so strained that I prefer him to be not around. I just don't want her to have to go through something like that later on in her life, you know? I wish he would just leave it alone and cherish what time he does get with her.