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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
I swear my family is being tested!
You all know that my mom has lung cancer and it's terminal. Well yesterday my sister found a lump in her breast and is obviously terrified. She has skin cancer already (part of her nose, ear, lip and neck have been removed) so the thought of breast cancer is swirling around in her head. Today I go to the dermatologist because my nose has been peeling since June and he told me he's worried about what he sees. So Dec 7th I have to go in and have my nose biopsed (two or three stitches afterwards). The doctor says it could be skin cancer but we won't know for sure until after the biopsy.
I swear, could things get any harder on my family? How does one keep the faith when you're constantly being tested??
I'm sorry I just needed a place to vent. It's been absolutely the toughest year of my life.
I swear, could things get any harder on my family? How does one keep the faith when you're constantly being tested??
I'm sorry I just needed a place to vent. It's been absolutely the toughest year of my life.
Re: I swear my family is being tested!
your story is reason #1 that i hate 2007.
i wish that i had a magic wand to wave and just make everything ok for you. ((((h.u.g.s.)))) i truly know how hard it is to still have faith that things will get better and life is good. some people are asked to face challenges that are just simply unfair, and make you angry, and break your heart, and want to punch the big guy right in the nose. i have faith for you, Danica. you have made it through every challenge yet, with grace, and integrity. a lot of people i know would have become mean, or bitter, or broken down entirely. but your heart has remained so big, and so caring, and i truly don't know how you do it but its just plain inspiring to me. and that is part of what faith is, and how you keep it. you keep on loving, and you keep on caring. that is what makes life good enough to live.
(((bigs hugs))) sweetheart
i'll be home all weekend, if you want to meet for drinks!!
((HUGS))
Keep the faith! Enjoy the holidays with your family, and keep us posted on the prognosis.
I don't know what I can say that hasn't already been said so ((HUGS))
It gets better. I know this from experience. You know this, but not everybody else here knows...that in a year's time, I lost my sister to a massive stroke, lost my father to Alzheimer's, found out my husband was having an affair and lost my marriage, my house, my car and my job (because I worked for my husband!), and my 80 year old mother broke both hips and went into a nursing home. Believe me, there were many days that I cried nonstop, wondering what I did that was so awful that I deserved all this loss and stress that was happening to me. I wasn't sure I even had faith to survive it all, because it seemed like every time something would blindside me, I would just barely start to recover from it, start to grieve for it....and bam...something else would rip my life apart. I felt like I was in the ocean, and these huge waves just kept knocking me over and pulling me down every time I tried to stand up, and I was slowly drowning.
But eventually it passes, and you get on the other side of all this.
It helps not to look at the big picture right now....look at each thing separately, and deal with them one at a time. Live in the now, and dig deep to find the strength that you don't even know you have yet.
When my divorce was about to be final, I got a tattoo that says "Faith" on my lower back, because in those dark hours when I wasn't sure I was going to get through all of that pain, I could look in the mirror and physically "see" it, and remind myself that I did have faith that everything would someday be okay.
You will be okay. I promise you. I have faith in you, even if you don't right now.
I'm so sorry! I'm sitting here at my desk teary eyed just thinking about everything you've been through.
{{HUGS!}}
Much love and strength!