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Brother update
Many of you will remember my post a few months ago about my brother who wants to get married in the spring. Well they got engaged last month and just set a date for Feb 23.... maybe??
Their church wouldn't let them get engaged until they'd been together 9 months... and now won't let them send out invites until they've gone through a 6-week counseling program that no one will bother scheduling with them (wedding's in 15 wks)?? So basically, we'll have very little notice of this wedding actually happening.
His fiance is spazzing out because there's so little time to plan and she's finishing a nursing program next month. I spoke with her last night and I was truly worried about how scattered and overwhelmed she was. This hardly seems worth it to me for what you'd hope to be your only wedding. They are so rushed to get everything done that I'm afraid they won't enjoy anything.
They went for earlier spring because they didn't want to wait until fall. [Due to my pregnancy and my other brother's wife is expecting their 6th a month after me]
Their church wouldn't let them get engaged until they'd been together 9 months... and now won't let them send out invites until they've gone through a 6-week counseling program that no one will bother scheduling with them (wedding's in 15 wks)?? So basically, we'll have very little notice of this wedding actually happening.
His fiance is spazzing out because there's so little time to plan and she's finishing a nursing program next month. I spoke with her last night and I was truly worried about how scattered and overwhelmed she was. This hardly seems worth it to me for what you'd hope to be your only wedding. They are so rushed to get everything done that I'm afraid they won't enjoy anything.
They went for earlier spring because they didn't want to wait until fall. [Due to my pregnancy and my other brother's wife is expecting their 6th a month after me]
Re: Brother update
There is a longer story about why they don't want to wait, but it's so confusing, I won't try to explain it.
No (and yes, I kinda agree...)
It has to do with her graduating and not wanting to put her 3 yr old in daycare right after the wedding (she has built-in daycare with the family she lives with now). So she's going to hold off working until perhaps the summer, after things settle for the kid. He loves my brother (and has no involved father), but since the engagement, has been acting out.
So I guess getting married sooner means a faster transition to working later and support from my brother in the meantime.
I totally agree with a pp poster who said that either the wedding date needs to change or they need to redetermine what type of wedding they want to have. Do they have friends that can help plan and take care of some of the details?
Really, a wedding isn't about the amount of guests, what the cake looks like, what food is served, etc. It's about committing their lives to each other. I think they need to keep that as their focus instead of getting caught up in the details. I planned our wedding and was in grad school at the same time (as well as worked full-time), and remembering that the marriage is what counts and not the wedding, is what kept me focused and calm.
What if they had a smaller wedding ceremony and small reception in February and then planned something a bit bigger for the summer or fall? Perhaps the smaller ceremony and reception could be family and close friends, with a bigger party with all of their friends later on that family could attend if able but not feel obligated since they were there for the "real" ceremony and reception? I hope that makes sense. It makes sense in my brain but not sure if I articulated it well!
we got engaged in april of 07, started wedding planning on july 07 ... our invites were out august 07 and we got married in oct 07
we had a 250 people wedding... and i never felt frazzled etc etc.. what lengths are they going to to try and get this wedding off the ground that she's already stressed?
I think it's planning a wedding in less than 4 months, while in her last month of a nursing program that has future-SIL going nuts. And the restrictions from their church are not helping. It sounds like they won't be able to start the counseling thing until January, which means 6 weeks later the invites can go out.... a week before the wedding?? Barf.
thank god for our non denominational service
I think it's a matter of respecting their church's wishes? They will send out STD's, and my brother is pushing them to get the counseling set up at the start of next month. We'll see what happens...