Age Differences..

KimNSandy

Hi ladies...

Are there any of you with a decent age difference between you and your honey? How do you feel about it? Does it ever worry the older of you two how things will be in 10 years...20 years..?

Sandy and I are 7ish years apart. Not that much of a difference really I guess. But I'm the older one and rest assured, I am using my Loreal eye-cream every night to make sure I stay young looking! ha ha!

Just curious if I was the only one who has kinda wondered about this. I have always been with people closer to my age before so it's new to me....

KnS

ctbride08

Andrea is 4 years older than me - its nothin now, but it was a lot bigger difference when i was 17 and she was 21

2brides

L is 12.5 years older than I am. It comes up more now than it did when we first got together 9 years ago (yea, my parents were pleased that they 25 year old daughter was shacking up with a 38 year old woman ) - primarily in the context of her being an older mom (she was 44 when the kids were born.) She was also much more settled in her ways and sometimes that was a hard adjustment at first (she was single for 5 years before we got together and I was only 3 years out of college and had bounced around so very not set in my ways.)

 It does make me sad that she'll get older before I do. But given that she works out and eats 100% better than I do, I'll probably kick it before she does. 

Two*True

K and I have a large age difference (largest on this board that I know of).  I'd be lying if I said it never caused problems.  However there are many ways that I am older than her, and many ways in which she keeps me young.  Also, my dad was in his late 40s when he had my brother and I and I think it was a blessing.  He was much more active in our lives than fathers 1/2 his age were with my friends. Sometimes K is a bit too set in her ways for me and that is a challenge.  But she realizes this too and has been really great about letting me learn my own lessons.

KimNSandy

If you don't mind me asking...how much difference is there between you and K? I assume from your wording that she is the older one.

KnS

TheSongAllAlong

T is 10 years older then me and I used to worry about the same things but i've gotten to the point where it just doesnt matter anymore. There are ways she is younger then me sometimes and there are ways I learn from her, the same goes both ways.

 

rikkiandjulie

Julie and I are 3 years apart. Not a big deal, but my dad wasn't to fond of his freshman daughter dating a senior. It was one of those things. :-)

We've lived together since I was 17.

thiswillbe

Sylvia and I are 13 years apart (she's older). The difference in our ages is more of an issue for her than for me, I think. (She likes to say that when she found out how old I was, she felt like she should wash her head out for the thoughts she'd been having... lol.)

I think the biggest impact our age difference has had on our relationship is with regard to us having children. She used to insist that she wanted us to be done having kids before she was 45. Well, she's 45 now and we're just getting started with ttc. I do think because of her age we'll be a little more aggressive with fertility treatments than we would be if she were younger. No time to waste, you know?

I wonder sometimes how different my experience is from someone in a marriage with less of an age difference. Does everyone randomly think about their partner's funeral? Try to take lots of pictures to preserve memories? Actively treasure each day?

rikkiandjulie

I know that I think about Julie's funeral, but only because something could happen at any moment, and 'poof' they are gone. It's not something I dwell, on but we have mentioned to the other what we'd like done if something was to happen, because you just never know.

Yes we take pictures of everything so we will have it to fall back on, weather we are together or not, and we try our hardest to treasure each day. Some days are trying, but we try our hardest.

 I just thought I'd answer b/c Julie and I are 20+ish years younger than you and Sylvia, and yes we do think of these things too. I think it's normal, not dependant on the 'age' of your relationship.

Two*True

KimNSandy:

If you don't mind me asking...how much difference is there between you and K? I assume from your wording that she is the older one.

KnS

Yes, K is the older one.  The actual # we don't share (although the Nesties we've met in person can make a good guess) because 1) People automatically start to judge before they know us (same way some nesties don't share their ages b/c people jusdge what age is 'right' to get married)  2) One of K's professors told her to stop telling her age because she doesn't look it and it will only hurt her in tenure track positions at major universities.

Let's just say that if this were a stereotypical heterosexual relationship I'd be considered the arm candy or trophy wife (although maybe not in looks)

Mrs._F

C and I are close in age.  No biggie.  The age difference of our parents is funny though - I'm the oldest, C's the youngest; my parents had me when they were very young, and C's parents had kids later in life -- so her folks are the age of my grandparents, which means they are sooo ready for grandkids, while mine would be content to wait awhile

jayangel

Jay and I are only a little more than a year apart so no big age difference here.