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HELP: I need advice(long)
I can t remember if I told ya'll are not. But about two weeks ago my mom's house was broken into. Come to find out a kid from down the street that my little brother grew up with did the breaking in. He stole mom's camera, lap top, and a diamond ring. Its really a sad story in Jr high he practically lived at our house. His mom is just sorry and has never been around. His dad is strung out on pills and in and out of jail. So this kid pretty much had to raise himself. Anyway he brakes into mom's house, steals the stuff, then goes over to my grandmothers looking for mom and my Gran fixes this kid who just broke into mom a sandwich. Anyway he got out of jail over the weekend. Comes to mom's crying saying how sorry he was,and that he just needed money really bad(to buy pills to get high). ANd that was the reason he stole mom's stuff. He says after two weeks in jail he is clean and wants to start a new life. He wants to get away from his dad who is strung out all the time. He has no money and all of his dad's money goes towards drugs. I really really want to help this kid. But I don t know what to do! Since breaking into mom's house it but a felony on his record. I don t know how hard it will be for him to find a job with a felony, and jobs are hard to come by anyway! I just feel so bad for the kid. What can I do to help him get out of that house? He has no money, no job, and no family. Moving in with me is out of the question. But I do play to go buy him some groceries this week. Even though he stole from mom, and cleaned EVERYTHING off her computer I still want to help this kid out. What can I do. He is too old (19)to go to a boys home. Are there any places that take people like him in. He just need an environment where people do the right thing. He is a good smart kid. Thnaks and sorry for the rambling.
Re: HELP: I need advice(long)
He needs to go to rehab. Two weeks is not long enough to understand addiction and how to overcome it. It requires a complete lifestyle change. You can't go to the same places and you can't have the same friends. I would call some local rehab centers and talk to a professional about how to handle the situation. I know Bradford has many facilities throughout the state and I highly recommend Alabama Teen Challenge. If he doesn't want to do that, insist on AA or NA.
He also needs to get a job. Fast food restaurants are always hiring. It's not glamorous, but it's honest work. He may be able to get housing assistance if he has income. I think it's great you want to help, but there is a fine line between helping and enabling. People with drug problems will manipulate situations to get what they want.
Sorry to be so harsh, but addiction is not something I take lightly.
Safe Harbor (<-- link) has a lot of information on rehab programs as well.